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John and I just celebrated another anniversary. Our 36th! Where has the time gone?!

Well, we devoted time to growing together in God… nurturing our diverse ministries, including raising our wonderful daughter, creating careers in business, teaching, consulting, and coaching… encouraging others… enjoying and creating music… and attending grad school not once but many times. :o)

Mango Gerbera Daisy.Gloria Burgess

What’s the secret to a vibrant, joyous marriage? Here are a few things that have helped me. Maybe they’ll help you, too.

Commitment. Begin with the end in mind. Even before you say “I do,” create a shared vision for your life together. And when you say “I do,” know that you are making a vow, a sacred commitment for the long-term. Remember that those 2 precious words—“I do”—are intimately connected with “’til death do us part.” When you hit the inevitable snag or a bump in the road, it helps to know you’re committed to each other, to God, and to working together to move through the rough times… and live to tell about it!

Love. The language of love includes gratitude, patience, courage, and forgiveness, along with a good sense of humor. Love is the only thing that multiplies when you share it, so be sure to love generously—with your smiles, kisses, hugs, whispers, laughter, snuggling, hand holding, stories, and hallelujahs. Discover your mate’s  love language—and use it! If just thinking about your spouse makes you flush, don’t keep it to yourself. Tell him. I love romantic surprises—a love note under my pillow or, when I’m on the road, tucked into my luggage… a shared sunrise or sunset… hearing John play the piano while I’m writing or cooking… or even better—having him cook!

Communication. Be sure to talk about everything—the big things and the little things. Share your beliefs and dreams… about faith, money, children, romance, family, friends, work, and recreation. If it’s important to you, then it should be important to your mate. Remember that in the grand aria of life, time is precious and life is short. Don’t waste precious time pouting, sulking, or dishing out the silent treatment. When you fight, get over it—the sooner the better. Do you really care about being right or being with Mr. or Mrs. Right?

Time together and time alone is essential. Be intentional. If you’re raising children, set aside time each day that’s just for the two of you. If you can arrange for a relative or friend to care for your children every now and then, do it. If your nest is empty, set aside a special time for a date night: take a walk, play a game, sing, watch a movie, learn how to say “I love you” in as many languages as possible. The important thing is to have fun. Invest in each other and the rewards will be a joyous relationship, good times, and memories to cherish for years to come.

John, here’s to you… Happy 36th! To many, many more.

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My husband John and I just celebrated our 35th anniversary. Talk about blessings!

More and more, folks ask what’s the secret to a happy, long-lasting marriage? Well, it doesn’t just happen. Along with gratitude, patience, and a sense of humor, it takes commitment, love, and lots dedication and hard work.

Here are a few things that have helped me and John. Maybe they’ll help you, too.

♥ Commitment. Begin with the end in mind. In other words, when you say “I do…” remember that those 2 precious words go along with “’til death do us part.” And when the going gets rough–because it surely will–it helps to know you’re committed to each other, and to working together to get to the other side and live to tell about it.

♥ Love. It’s the only thing that multiplies when you share it, so be generous with your love–your kisses, hugs, whispers, snuggling, hand holding, and hallelujahs. Get to know each other’s love language–and use it! If just thinking about your spouse makes you flush, let him or her know. Romantic surprises are always lovely–a love note tucked under a pillow or into a pocket… even 35 long-stemmed red roses. Oh, my!!

♥ Communication. Be sure to talk about both the little and the big things. Talk about everything–your beliefs and dreams… faith, money, children, romance, family, friends, work, and recreation. If it’s important to you, then it should be important to your mate. When you fight, get over it–the sooner the better. In the grand scheme of things, life is short. What do you really care about–being right or being with Mr. or Mrs. Right?

♥ Time together. Make it a priority to be together–alone,  just the two of you. If you’re raising children, set aside time each day that’s just for you. If you can arrange for someone to care for your children every now and then, do it. If yours is an empty nest, set aside special time for “date night”… play a game, sing, watch a movie, take a walk, find a book you both enjoy… read it and talk about it, take a class together. Be intentional. Invest in each other and the rewards will be good times and memories to cherish for years to come.

John, here’s to you… and to us for 35 more wonderful years–at least!

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