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John and I just celebrated another anniversary. Our 36th! Where has the time gone?!

Well, we devoted time to growing together in God… nurturing our diverse ministries, including raising our wonderful daughter, creating careers in business, teaching, consulting, and coaching… encouraging others… enjoying and creating music… and attending grad school not once but many times. :o)

Mango Gerbera Daisy.Gloria Burgess

What’s the secret to a vibrant, joyous marriage? Here are a few things that have helped me. Maybe they’ll help you, too.

Commitment. Begin with the end in mind. Even before you say “I do,” create a shared vision for your life together. And when you say “I do,” know that you are making a vow, a sacred commitment for the long-term. Remember that those 2 precious words—“I do”—are intimately connected with “’til death do us part.” When you hit the inevitable snag or a bump in the road, it helps to know you’re committed to each other, to God, and to working together to move through the rough times… and live to tell about it!

Love. The language of love includes gratitude, patience, courage, and forgiveness, along with a good sense of humor. Love is the only thing that multiplies when you share it, so be sure to love generously—with your smiles, kisses, hugs, whispers, laughter, snuggling, hand holding, stories, and hallelujahs. Discover your mate’s  love language—and use it! If just thinking about your spouse makes you flush, don’t keep it to yourself. Tell him. I love romantic surprises—a love note under my pillow or, when I’m on the road, tucked into my luggage… a shared sunrise or sunset… hearing John play the piano while I’m writing or cooking… or even better—having him cook!

Communication. Be sure to talk about everything—the big things and the little things. Share your beliefs and dreams… about faith, money, children, romance, family, friends, work, and recreation. If it’s important to you, then it should be important to your mate. Remember that in the grand aria of life, time is precious and life is short. Don’t waste precious time pouting, sulking, or dishing out the silent treatment. When you fight, get over it—the sooner the better. Do you really care about being right or being with Mr. or Mrs. Right?

Time together and time alone is essential. Be intentional. If you’re raising children, set aside time each day that’s just for the two of you. If you can arrange for a relative or friend to care for your children every now and then, do it. If your nest is empty, set aside a special time for a date night: take a walk, play a game, sing, watch a movie, learn how to say “I love you” in as many languages as possible. The important thing is to have fun. Invest in each other and the rewards will be a joyous relationship, good times, and memories to cherish for years to come.

John, here’s to you… Happy 36th! To many, many more.

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Welcome Spring! Sensual abundance. I feel very blessed to be coming back to my senses, especially since my fall just a few months ago.

So I’m counting my blessings. There are so many of them—greening trees, bulbs pushing forth from warming soil… more sun, wind and, rain… birdsong, children playing in the park. And less time in physical therapy. Talk about blessings!

I’ve been watching my step… and letting go of some things that no longer serve me well at this stage of my life. To help me prepare for new beginnings, I committed to one action each day, asking God, “How can you use me today?”  Each day, something new is being birthed.

May this Spring bring forth new beginnings for you and the people and places you love. And may your be blessed with great wealth–of gratitude, love, faith, compassion, forgiveness, and creativity.

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What the world needs now is love in all of its diverse expressions—empathy, compassion, mercy, forgiveness, passion, gratitude, kindness. Who will you say “I love you” to today? What word of encouragement will you whisper in their ear? Who will you feed with your smile? What a difference love makes.

Here are just a few of our sisters and brothers who have made a difference through the power of love.

Tina Allen •  Ella Baker •  Josephine Baker  •  Mary McLeod Bethune •  John E. Fetzer •  Mary Jane Gillespie  • 
Dr. Eva Jessye  •  Jesus  •   Helen Keller  •   Coretta Scott King •  Denise Klein •  Abraham Lincoln  •   Dr. Wangari Maathai •  Nelson Mandela   •   Earnest McEwen, Jr. •  Michelle Obama •  Julieanna Richardson •  Albert Schweitzer •   Mother Teresa  •  Archbishop Desmond Tutu  •  Tamara Woodbury

Tell me, what difference is your love making today?

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When you say something you later regret or you make a mistake, do you go into churn mode—where you turn it over and over in your mind and hammer yourself along the way? I do. Or, as a recovering churner, I will say I used to. So this advice is for me and you.

Forgive yourself. Then let it go.

As you let it go, promise yourself that you’ll bathe yourself in the same kind of compassion that you so easily lavish on others. And remember that self-compassion goes a long way. It helps us:

– Love ourselves—flaws and all.

– Know that we’re all works in progress—and not just any work. You are a marvelous masterpiece in the making.

– Practice softening our eyes and the rest of our bodies, so we can see ourselves as God sees us.

– Know that life-long learning doesn’t have to cost of anything more than a look in the mirror.

– Be on purpose so we can choose differently next time around.

Pass It On!

When you say something that you later regret or you make a mistake, do you go into churn mode—where you turn it over and over in your mind and hammer yourself along the way? I do. Or, as a recovering churner, I will say I used to. So this advice is for me and you.

Forgive yourself. Then let it go.

As you let it go, promise yourself that you’ll bathe yourself in the same kind of compassion that you so easily lavish on others. And remember that self-compassion goes a long way. It helps us:

Love ourselves—flaws and all.

Know that we’re all works in progress—and not just any work. You are a marvelous masterpiece in the making.

Practice softening our eyes and the rest of our bodies, so t we can see ourselves as God sees us.

Know that life-long learning doesn’t have to cost of anything more than a look in the mirror.

Be on purpose so we can choose differently next time around.

Pass It On!

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