My husband John and I just celebrated our 35th anniversary. Talk about blessings!
More and more, folks ask what’s the secret to a happy, long-lasting marriage? Well, it doesn’t just happen. Along with gratitude, patience, and a sense of humor, it takes commitment, love, and lots dedication and hard work.
♥ Commitment. Begin with the end in mind. In other words, when you say “I do…” remember that those 2 precious words go along with “’til death do us part.” And when the going gets rough–because it surely will–it helps to know you’re committed to each other, and to working together to get to the other side and live to tell about it.
♥ Love. It’s the only thing that multiplies when you share it, so be generous with your love–your kisses, hugs, whispers, snuggling, hand holding, and hallelujahs. Get to know each other’s love language–and use it! If just thinking about your spouse makes you flush, let him or her know. Romantic surprises are always lovely–a love note tucked under a pillow or into a pocket… even 35 long-stemmed red roses. Oh, my!!
♥ Communication. Be sure to talk about both the little and the big things. Talk about everything–your beliefs and dreams… faith, money, children, romance, family, friends, work, and recreation. If it’s important to you, then it should be important to your mate. When you fight, get over it–the sooner the better. In the grand scheme of things, life is short. What do you really care about–being right or being with Mr. or Mrs. Right?
♥ Time together. Make it a priority to be together–alone, just the two of you. If you’re raising children, set aside time each day that’s just for you. If you can arrange for someone to care for your children every now and then, do it. If yours is an empty nest, set aside special time for “date night”… play a game, sing, watch a movie, take a walk, find a book you both enjoy… read it and talk about it, take a class together. Be intentional. Invest in each other and the rewards will be good times and memories to cherish for years to come.
John, here’s to you… and to us for 35 more wonderful years–at least!
Pass It On!