In just a few days, we will pay tribute to an American legend – Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Around the world we will celebrate his legacy, even as our own legacies continue to intertwine with his.
Even now, I imagine Dr. King’s presence… and I hear his marvelous voice beckoning us to lean into our deepest calling, which is to serve. “Anyone can be great because everyone can serve. You don’t have to have a college degree to serve. You don’t have to make your subject and verb agree to serve… You only need a heart full of grace, a soul generated by love.”
Storyteller and author Clarissa Pinkola Estes reminds us that “One of the most calming and powerful actions [we] can do to intervene in a stormy world is to stand up and show [our] soul.”
In our ever-shrinking global village, standing up and showing your soul is not a luxury. It is an imperative.
In my latest book, Dare to Wear Your Soul on the Outside, I discuss what it means and what it takes to stand up and show your soul… so that we might co-create the kind of world that we want to pass on to our children and our children’s children and beyond.
As we remember Dr. King and celebrate his legacy, let us also remember to celebrate ourselves as we stand up, serve, and be the change that we want to be in our world.
This holiday season, we are blessed once again by my daughter’s presence. Now that she has launched her career, we are even moregrateful that she still delights in the simple pleasures of hanging out with me and her dad.
Last year about this time, I asked her what I should write about for my “Feel Good Tuesday” post. She said, “Oh, you should write about family—how wonderful it is to spend time with family members, the importance of appreciating one another, and sharing our love, especially older family members while they can still enjoy your presence.
Family matters. As I get older, I appreciate and celebrate family more and more.
On Christmas Eve, my husband, daughter, and I piled into the car and headed to Vancouver to see my mom, niece, and two younger sisters. We enjoyed a few joyous hours snuggled up on the sofa sharing stories and photos, catching up on each others’ lives, playing games, and dreaming about the year ahead.
Before my daughter returns home to Boston, we’ll gather around the fire, piece together several jigsaw puzzles, and take a few walks in the misty twilight. We might even round up our instruments to make music together, creating wonderful new holiday memories.
As you reflect on your holidays, may you be blessed with the warmth of family, blessed by love given and received.
Sending you and your loved ones Warm Blessings for a Joyous New Year.
Gratitude. God is awesome. As 2011 closes, I give thanks for the many blessings received & shared with you, my community of family and friends. In May, I celebrated with my daughter as she completed her MFA at Boston U. She now enjoys a wonderful position as head of a Boston College’s costume shop, and she continues to expand her portfolio of exquisite designs. I’m blessed that she’ll be home for the holidays.
Joy. I continue to lean into my ministry in communities near and far, and at my home church and others that call. This summer, I was blessed to visit Ghana, a ministry of learning and teaching with 23 seniors and juniors from University of Washington. My latest book, Pass It On!, will be released next year. It’s my first book for children, and I look forward to writing more.
Light. In this holy season, I pray for those who are without shelter, food, or a community of loved ones; I pray for those ravaged by war, trafficking, famine, dislocation, flood, sickness, and spiritual darkness. As well, I pray for our service men and women who have returned home from Iraq, specifically for their smooth re-entry with family and community. For some this can be a most difficult transition. I also pray for those who are still serving us at home and around the world, those who are unable to be home with their loved ones during this special time.
May God’s glorious grace, love, and mercy enfold and comfort you during this Holy Season and throughout the New Year.
In his letter to the Hebrews, Saint Paul declares that faith is “the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.”
More recently, South African theologian and missionary leader Andrew Murray describes faith as a sixth sense. “Just as we have our [five] senses, through which we hold communication with the physical universe, so faith is the spiritual sense or organ through which the soul comes into contact with and is affected by the spiritual world.” Through this spiritual organ, we have the privilege of communing with the mystery and magnificence of God.
As Paul assures us, the marvelous tapestry of faith is threaded with confidence and evidence of the invisible. To be sure, this faith is also threaded with fear, doubt, confusion, and, ultimately, surrender.
As our world becomes more chaotic and uncertain, we are called to be ambassadors of light, love, and faith. Ask yourself: What must I let go of, so that I can lean into faith that is confident and sure?
Sending you love, light, peace, and joy in this holiest of seasons.
I’ve heard Wintley Phipps sing Amazing Grace many times, so much so that his astounding singing and insightful commentary have become inseparable. Wintley’s stirring offering of this spiritual is a classic, a marvelous gift of legacy living. Listen and be blessed.
Fall is my favorite season, a time of bounty, beauty, turbulence, transformation, perpetuation, and possibility. It’s also a season that invites solitude, reflection, and gratitude.
During this season of Thanksgiving, give thanks for persons who have called your name, even if you weren’t aware of them doing so. When others call your name it is a way of acknowledging you… all of your unique gifts, skills, and talents, which comprise your signature presence.
When others call your name, it is part of a larger pattern of recognizing the importance of an individual and the collective of which we’re all a part. It also recognizes our interconnectedness to one another and all of life, as well as our responsibility to care for one another and our planet.
As we’ve learned from so many cultures where hospitality and harmony are of utmost importance, I cannot exist with you, and you cannot exist with me. In many African cultures, this kind of innate interdependence is an aspect of the spirit of “Ubuntu.”
When we deeply understand our interconnectedness, we understand the soul of leadership. In Western culture, we sometimes call this stance servant leadership.
As you prepare your heart for your Thanksgiving celebration, reflect on and count your blessings. Be sure to include persons who have come into your life – however briefly – who have extended a kindness to you… a loved one, a friend, or even a total stranger.
This week, take time to fill your heart with and reflect on these questions: Whose am I? Who supports me? Who do I belong to, and who belongs to me? Who has extended graciousness and blessings to me? Who do I extendgraciousness and blessingsto? Whose name will I calltoday?
This morning, one of my students opened our class with an attunement, our meditative practice at the beginning of each morning to focus our energy – spiritually, physically, emotionally, and intellectually.
Compassion Flower
Her attunement was to shine the light on simple acts of caring and compassion. She shared with us a moment she experienced just today while waiting for the ferry. As she waited in line, she noticed a man who had slept on the ground the night before, apparently homeless. She watched as he sat up, smoothed his clothing, folded his blanket, neatly, and brushed his hair, readying himself for the day while his companion was still sleeping.
My student noticed another man as he got out of his car and approached the man who had slept on the ground. They had a brief conversation then the man returned to his car. A minute or two later, he emerged, carrying two cups of hot, steaming coffee. He gave both of them to the man, a cup for him and a cup for his companion.
As my student described this early-morning exchange, she said she was struck not only by what she had witnessed, but also by the simplicity of what it means and what it takes to care for our brothers and sisters: a little time… attention… generosity… and a heart of kindness.
As the golden days of autumn give way to auburn, rust, and brown, we lean toward Thanksgiving, a season of deep gratitude.
Today and always I give thanks for my many blessings – family and friends, children’s laughter, angels and prayers that come into my life, bidden or unbidden, even my breath, which I so often take for granted… but which for some is an immense struggle.
Abundance is Yours
Many years ago, I wrote “Sanctuary,” one of my many poems of gratitude. I share it with you now as an offering of thanksgiving for a faithful, stout-hearted woman of God… my mom, Mildred McEwen, and to two amazing men whose legacy of generosity and gratitude changed my life… my father, Earnest McEwen, Jr., and William Faulkner.
Who has been a blessing in your life? Have you expressed your gratitude?
SANCTUARY
for William Faulkner and my father, Earnest McEwen, Jr.*
Between the brush of angels’ wings
and furious hooves of hell, two mortal men
fell down. How you must have looked—
white shirt stained, khakis fatigued,
smelling of sweat and smoke,
hair at odds with itself and the world.
At the threshold among your restless dead
in echo and shadow of ancient oaks,
providing sanctuary, offering shade,
you had many worlds behind you,
few yet to be born: stories of insurgence,
scorn, decay—theme and variations
of a vanquished South.
Leaning against a jamb
of antebellum brass, you watched, waited,
raised weary arm and hand, saluted
the familiar stranger. Come. Enter. Sit. Sing.
You reached each other across the grate.
What you two must have known of heaven and hell.
* William Faulkner was my father’s benefactor, paying for him to attend college at a time when he had little
prospects of earning enough money to pay for it himself. This was Faulkner’s way of dismantling institutionalized racism long before desegregation was mandated in the South.
Last Sunday, I was a guest minister at a Seattle church. The people were very warm, welcoming, and open, and I felt very much at home. Responding to the pastor’s invitation to move from our pews to greet people we didn’t know, we joyously engaged in “radical hospitality.” How could he have known I’d be writing a post about this very topic?!
What is radical hospitality? It’s genuine kindness and generosity not because you know someone; it’s kindness and generosity just because.
- Because we are in love with God… and we see and experience God’s love in others.
- Because we are our sister’s and brother’s keepers.
- Because we share a home – this great blue and green marble we call planet Earth – and we want others to feel welcome in our home.
- Because we must care for our home so that, as gracious stewards, we pass on a worthy inheritance to our children and our children’s children.
- Because we must be about legacy living, about planting trees whose shade we might never enjoy.
The greatest force on earth is not compulsion of law. It is compassion of love. ~ Unknown
Autumn as Teacher Supports Us as We Practice Surrender:
Surrender.Gloria Burgess.Feel Good Tuesday
- Give up your need to be right. Lean into curiosity – your own. Let your guard down, relax, & see where it takes you.
- Give up your need to know it all… or even to know anything at all. Be open to beneficial surprise.
- Let go of your need to have “the” answer. Let someone else respond. Let someone else find out. Deepen your appreciation for wonder, discovery, & leaning into mystery.
- Give up your need to make others wrong. Notice what holds you back. Don’t judge yourself. Simply notice… be gentle with yourself & practice choosing differently next time around.
Just in time for the holidays… Send me your most inspiring story about daring to wear your soul on the outside–holiday-themed, of course! I’ll draw a winner, post it on my blog, and send you a copy of my latest book Dare to Wear Your Soul on the Outside. Entries will be accepted through December 31, 2008. I’ll post the winning entry in January.
Here’s an article called Obama Taps into Our Yearning for Meaning, Spirituality by Desiree Cooper. Whether you find meaning and spirituality in religion or elsewhere, Cooper captures the heart of what most of us yearn for—involvement and responsibility that delves into the realms of faith and politics in a way that can engage the very best that is within us–individually and collectively.
My family had great Christmases up until I was six years old. We’d have Christmas trees coated in fake snow, and my mother would paint Christmas scenes on all the windows. It was my favorite time of year. On Christmas morning we’d open our presents, and then my brothers and I would go outside to compare toys with the neighbors.
After my sixth birthday, my parents became pretty serious drug addicts, and we barely had money for food, let alone Christmas presents. Continue Reading »
During my college years I once spent a month skiing in the French, Swiss, and Austrian Alps. For the Christmas week, a group of college friends and I rented a mountain chalet a little south of Innsbruck. We anticipated Christmas to be a quiet, melancholy time, as we had no Christmas tree, hadn’t planned on exchanging presents, and were all away from our families. However, on Christmas Eve… Continue Reading »
Here’s an uplifting thing Barnes & Noble is doing to celebrate Black History Month… highlighting books by African-American authors. Follow this link, Black Authors Speak Out, Continue Reading »
My Book Tour continues… I’ve covered 10 states in just over 15 days, all from the comfort of my office! Take a moment and listen in on my interview with SteveMaraboli, on Blog Talk Radio, as I discuss my latest book, Dare to Wear Your Soul on the Outside. Continue Reading »
In today’s economy, this is the time to polish your skills or learn new ones? If you’re already a business coach, or an HR, OD, or training professional, perhaps an intensive skill-building seminar is right for you. Learn from one of the best–Mary Beth O’Neill. To see a detailed description of her seminars or for registration details, just follow this link: Executive Coaching. Continue Reading »
Here’s a snippet from a wonderful article by Desiree Cooper for the Detroit Free Press about me: Gloria Burgess In the News. “Life coach Gloria Burgess understands how hard times can grind down the spirit. Raised in Detroit and Ann Arbor, her father had migrated from Mississippi to find a better life, but it wasn’t much better. ‘We had many days of wondering how to put food on the table… but Continue Reading »
In a few days, I’ll be part of a panel of leaders who declare that “You Were Born for Such a Time as This.” We’ll host a community dialogue on this theme. I’d love to hear from you. Given the staggering problems we face today—the failing economic system, global climate change, overwhelming poverty in one of the richest nations in the world, the need for immigration reform, millions losing their homes and their jobs… how can one person make a difference in the face of such daunting challenges and odds? Tell me what you’re doing to live out loud, to wear your soul on the outside, to make a difference in the world.
Tired of settling for a life that’s too small for you? If you have a dream, a goal… put it out there. There is someone out there, and very likely many someones, just waiting to help you reach and realize your dreams.
You Were Born for Such a Time As This! was an evening to remember… and build on. Sarah van Gelder, a phenomenal voice for transformation and Executive Editor of YES! Magazine, skillfully and graciously hosted a culturally diverse panel of transformational leaders who spoke about how to transcend our old ways and embrace change consciously, passionately, and sustainably. Sarah began by asking audience members how they were feeling. Here’s a sampler of what we heard: excited, scared, confused, grateful, hopeful. Continue Reading »
Join me and four other community leaders for a dialogue about navigating today’s challenges with hope and optimism. Community leaders include Gloria Burgess, author, poet, and leadership consultant; Jerry Large, Seattle Times Columnist; Peter Morgan, Executive VP of Group Health; Maria Ramirez, Executive Director of Compaña Quetzal, and Michael Ramos, Executive Director of the Church Council of Greater Seattle. Continue Reading »
Dr. James T. Brown provides an excellent overview of Dr. John Medina‘s new book, Brain Rules. Read his review on Basil & Spice, a wonderful web site featuring author and book reviews on healthy life styles. I recently had the good fortune to speak on the same program as Dr. Medina, who spoke for almost an hour on a very complex topic. He was witty, insightful, & engaging…in a winning presentation, supported by a winning book.
One step at a time. One smile at a time. One hug & one handshake at a time. One day at a time.
You make a difference when you say “hello.” You make a difference when you don’t say “hello” …when you keep moving because you’re too busy today… & you figure that someone else will pick up the slack. A few days ago, I sent a greeting card to a friend–a just because kind of card… though I hadn’t seen her in months, she was on my mind. Almost immediately, she sent me an e-mail to let me know that my card made her day… she said it was just what she needed because she was preparing to leave her house to work with some of the counselors who were working with community members following a recent tragedy that involved several murders & a suicide.
You never know who you will touch, or who needs a touch. And in the grand scheme of things, it’s not really our business to know. It’s simply our business to be kind, generous, & reach out to others.
How can one person make a difference? You already know… a smile, a hug, a handshake, a warm hello.
Given the daily dose of dire and depressing economic news, it’s not surprising that we tend to feel somewhat depressed as well. The signs include low energy and a general sense of fatigue and inertia. To remedy these ill effects, here is a practical, can-do tip to help you rise above the gray clouds of our gloomy economy and restore a sense of balance and perspective.
Attitude is everything. What we pay attention to multiplies. So listen to the news if you must, but refuse to buy into the doom and gloom. Instead focus on what’s good in your life and share your good news with others—not in a boastful way, but simply and humbly. Focus on your blessings every day and you will rise above the noise and be on your way to beating the blahs so you can successfully get through the months ahead and be stronger as a result.
Given the daily dose of dire and depressing economic news, it’s not surprising that we tend to feel somewhat depressed as well. The signs include low energy and a general sense of fatigue and inertia. To remedy these ill effects, here is a practical, can-do tip to help you rise above the gray clouds of our gloomy economy and restore a sense of balance and perspective.
Say yes to gratitude. Research confirms that when we feel thankful, our body chemistry actually changes. We produce more dopamine, the so-called feel-good hormone, which raises our energy level, reduces fatigue, and attracts other positive people.
Find YOUR ONE person or moment to be thankful for each day. Tell somebody! Say it out loud. Write yourself a note. Call a friend, a sibling or parent and share YOUR ONE with them.
Given the daily dose of dire and depressing economic news, it’s not surprising that we tend to feel somewhat depressed as well. The signs include low energy and a general sense of fatigue and inertia. To remedy these ill effects, here is a practical, can-do tip to help you rise above the gray clouds of our gloomy economy and restore a sense of balance and perspective.
Take stock of what matters. Be honest with yourself. Distinguish between what you want and what you really need. Do you really need that second cup of coffee, another pair of shoes, the latest electronic gizmo? Probably not. Rather than focus on your wants, reach out to someone else who is truly in need. Write a card or send a small care package to young person in a group home for foster care or a man or woman who is serving our country overseas.
Given the daily dose of dire and depressing economic news, it’s not surprising that we tend to feel somewhat depressed as well. The signs include low energy and a general sense of fatigue and inertia. To remedy these ill effects, here is a practical, can-do tip to help you rise above the gray clouds of our gloomy economy and restore a sense of balance and perspective.
Help someone without any expectation of reward. Once a day, open a door for someone, or tell them they look fabulous. Once a week, give up your latte and use those few dollars to buy a can or two of peas to donate to the food bank. Or volunteer at a shelter, school, or community center. Once a month, collect your gently used books or clothing and donate them to the library, shelter, church, or mosque. Whenever you can, smile. Smiles are free. Not only do they boost your own well being, they multiply when you give them away. Your smile might be just the sip of water someone is thirsting for. Remember that the truly wealthy are those who give until it feels good.
Given the daily dose of dire and depressing economic news, it’s not surprising that we tend to feel somewhat depressed as well. The signs include low energy and a general sense of fatigue and inertia. To remedy these ill effects, here is a practical, can-do tip to help you rise above the gray clouds of our gloomy economy and restore a sense of balance and perspective.
Change your outlook with an energy-boosting walk. Even a 10-minute walk is good for you. Shift your pace from slow to brisk, then slow down towards the end. You will be humming in no time while you burn extra calories, improve your circulation, and lift your spirits.
Given the daily dose of dire and depressing economic news, it’s not surprising that we tend to feel somewhat depressed as well. The signs include low energy and a general sense of fatigue and inertia. To remedy these ill effects, here is a practical, can-do tip to help you rise above the gray clouds of our gloomy economy and restore a sense of balance and perspective.
Express yourself with a creative activity—something you really enjoy or that you’ve always wanted to learn. Try dancing, singing, hiking, gardening, cycling, drawing, woodworking, skating, sewing, knitting, reading. Tell a friend and share the joy and benefits of your creativity together.
Given the daily dose of dire and depressing economic news, it’s not surprising that we tend to feel somewhat depressed as well. The signs include low energy and a general sense of fatigue and inertia. To remedy these ill effects, here is a practical, can-do tip to help you rise above the gray clouds of our gloomy economy and restore a sense of balance and perspective.
Learn something new—a new skill you can use at home or that could lead to a new job. You can find hundreds of free courses on the Internet. Or better yet, go to your local library and ask your librarian to help you find helpful books, videos, and DVDs. They might even suggest other resources, such as social networks, to help you channel your interests and expand your horizons. You will help yourself and help keep our local libraries open and accessible to us at a time when we can all use a boost.
The true meaning of success is defined by only one thing: your capacity to be your authentic self—bringing your whole self to all your relationships and all that you do.
Each of us is called to become a person who is unique in all time. Imagine that! No one, no one else can be or do what you are designed for. You are called to become and contribute what only you can, to bring forth your unique skills, talents, and gifts—your signature presence. When you do so with the intention of being of service to others, you leave the world better off.
This is what it means to dare wear your soul on the outside. This is what it means to live your legacy, now.
The 7 Sacred Promises are tools to help you in all areas of your life: your personal growth, relationships with loved ones and co-workers, raising healthy, happy children. The Sacred Promises are gratitude, faith, love, vision, integrity, creative action, and legacy.
Each one will help you as you begin to say YES to a life of freedom, fulfillment, and joy. Follow Me on Twitter
One of my clients who travels 2 weeks each month makes being away from his family more bearable by writing his wife and each of his 3 children a thank you note for each day he’s away. He thanks his children for helping out with chores without being asked, for looking out for one another while he’s away, for taking time to call to chat about how their day is going. He thanks his wife for loving him even when he forgets to give the dog a bath or take the garbage out. He thanks them and counts his blessings, because he knows that when all is said and done, the things in life that count the most are family, friends, and place to come home to where you are cherished simply for being who you are.
You were created to act on faith. Faith is being sure of what you hope for and certain of what you do not see. This Sacred Promise of Faith allows you to say to yourself and others, “I trust myself. I can do it.” Faith is the sound of your own voice saying to yourself “I believe in you.”
Love invites you to paint on the canvas of your life… love dares you wear your soul on the outside. Self-love means saying YES to your own agenda and loving yourself with the same intensity and immensity that you reserve for others. Unconditional self-love is the basis for loving and serving others. The reality is you cannot honor and love others unless you can honor, love, and respect yourself.
At this moment, I am blessed to be on the paradise island of Molokai, leading a retreat, Legacy of the Heart. In this intimate gathering, we celebrate life… the one we’re living and the one that is waiting–just for us.
For those unable to be here on Molokai with me this summer, I invite you on a virtual vision quest. Choose a time when you will have several hours free from distractions. Review the questions below, then go to a place that feeds your soul, a place of sanctuary, where you will take a long, solo walk. Carry your journal to make notes as you reflect on the questions. When you get home, put on your favorite relaxing music, put your feet up, and write or draw your responses.
What is the presence, or rhythm, of vision in my life?
What is my # 1 goal at this time-for me, for my family?
What have I said “no” to that I’m now ready to say “yes” to?
What must I do to get started? When will I begin?
Who will I ask for support and encouragement?
What image captures the essence of your vision?
Draw it or look in an old magazine for an image to include in your journal. Put your vision board in a place where you can easily see it. Look at it at least once a day. Soon you will begin to notice small and big changes in your life.
Our ultimate destination is not perfection, but wholeness, to become fully human and at home in our skin.
Integrity simply means embracing and honoring all of your diverse facets—acknowledging your beauty and brilliance as well as those areas where have blind spots. Integrity says, “I claim all aspects of my nature–the good, the bad, and the ugly. Integrity also say, it’s OK to be me… and to keep on putting one foot in front of the other as I work to improve myself and be of service to others.
I’ve often wanted to answer my phone with these very words–Yes, You CAN!! You’ve Got the Power. Life is short. And so very precious. What will you do with the rest of your life? If you have a dream, go for it! Ask yourself–what one step can you take today toward that dream? If not you, who? If not now, when?
Creative action is all of the baby steps and giant steps you take to reach and realize your goals, your hopes. your dreams. What one step will you take today? And what will you do to help someone else do the same?
The heart of legacy is captured in a wonderful African Wisdom Saying that says, “The world was not given to us by our parents. It was loaned to us by our children.” Think about it.
When someone else’s future becomes more important than your own, you make different daily choices. That what it means to live a life of service, to live you legacy–now.
Life is short… & oh so precious. How many times have you heard that? Yet how many times have we really stopped to take stock of our lives.
In the last few months, I”ve lost two dear friends to cancer. I know I’m not alone. Do you have a dream you’ve been putting off until your children are older, you get a better job, you retire? What are you waiting for? Go for it!
Ask yourself–what one step can I take today? Tomorrow, ask yourself the same thing. Then the next day, then the next. I’m cheering for you–all the way!
Just say thanks! You feel great & life just goes better–for you & those you love. You almost postively impact others–with your warmth, smile, goodwill, & the vibe you put out into the air around you. Bless someone today. Pass it on.
Here’s a great recipe for health & resilience. Cranio-sacral therapist, Vera McEwen, recommends something we can all benefit from any time, especially in these challenging times. It’s even simple to remember. Just think “HEART,” which means:
Hydrate – drink plenty of water, at least 8 glasses a day
Exercise – start today, slowly at first then work up to 20 min. 4-5/week
Awareness – increase your self awareness
Rest – the body needs an ample supply
Transform your mind – make healthy, life-affirming choices
Check out this wonderful site on creativity & innovation, hosted by David Bullock. He’s smart, witty, & oh so creative, a wonderful man who dares to wear his soul on the outside. Check out his web site & take a look at him on Twitter: http://twitter.com/davidBullock.
The truly wealthy are those who give until it feels good.
Today… help someone without any expectation of reward.
Once a day, open a door for someone, or tell them they look fabulous.
Once a week, give up your latte and use those few dollars to buy a can or two of peas to donate to the food bank. Or volunteer at a shelter, school, or community center.
Once a month, collect your gently used books or clothing and donate them to the library, shelter, church, or mosque.
Whenever you see someone, smile. Smiles are free. Not only do they boost your own feel-good vibe, they multiply when you give them away!!! ) Your smile might be just the sip of water someone is thirsting for.
Remember the truly wealthy are those who give not dollars or euros or yens or pesos. The truly wealthy are those who give until it feels good.
Next week–on TUESDAY–I’ll begin posting tips to make you feel good. Each Tuesday, look for additional tips.
Each week, look for blurbs on reaching out, giving back, being of service, radical acts of kindness… or as my 78-year old mom would say, “making yourself useful.” Yes, some advice never goes out of style.
Remember: the truly wealthy are those who give until it feels good.
Bless yourself & me by writing a comment. Bless somebody, & pass it on!
Expect to be amazed by regular folks, by ordinary events, in everyday places… while you make morning coffee, when you pick up your paper, as you greet your bus driver, when you take your kids to the park.
Each day live & love with a sense of:
- gratitude… begin by thanking the folks who love & support you… embrace it as a lifestyle—every day
- wonder… look at the world through the eyes of a child & say ahhh/awe
- abundance… know that there’s enough of everything for everyone
- curiosity… learn something new today & every day
- no worries… put the squeeze on bad news & turn your lemons into lemonade
- adventure… take a different route home today & tomorrow… tell somebody
- service… do something for someone else today without any expectation of reward
- new beginnings… accidentally step on someone’s toes? say I’m sorry & ask only—what’s possible NOW
Take a page from my good friend Madge. The other day she confided, “You know when my kids where younger, I was too busy making a living to teach them these things, but it’s not too late to teach my grandchildren.”
And I said, You Go Girl!
The truly wealthy are those who give until it feels good.
Beautiful… moving. Make your heart swell… with one of my favorite videos - Stand By Me.
After 10 years of traveling the globe to record virtually unknown musicians, Mark Johnson, Grammy-winning music producer and engineer, & his wonderful organization, Playing for Change,** now use the power of music to spread the message of peace, love, & our shared humanity. If you have not seen Stand By Me, their signature video… do yourself a favor… TAKE 5! Revel in the power of music. Do it now.
If you’ve seen Stand By Me, see it again & experience the magic all over. Then tell somebody! Share the LUV with others.
Some people change the weather in your life simply by their presence. My dad, my mom, & a few teachers come to mind. Tell me, what are you doing to change someone’s world today?
The truly wealthy are those who give until it feels good.
Listen to this… & if you’re really busy—WOW—like you don’t have a minute & a half… listen only. If you can spare a minute & a half, watch & witness ARTISTRY IN MOTION. Jazz buffs will revel in Charlie Parker & his back-up crew. Others… well, I hope you delight in these dudes who dare to wear their soul on the outside… & that this little 75 second time out of time will light your fire!
Enjoy!!
The truly wealthy are those who give until it feels good.
Teachers have a profound impact on us. The right words at the right time can make all the difference in making, or shaking, our young lives.
Years ago, one teacher dramatically changed my life—because of four simple words offered at the right time in the right way.
My teacher simply said, “I believe in you.”
She said it by giving me a small book of poems by Langston Hughes—The Dream Keeper. This book changed my life. It was the first time I’d ever held a book where the words sounded like words that came out of my mouth. Where the words had the swing & sway of the kitchen-table talk I heard in my own home. Where there were pictures of people who looked like me, who had lips like mine. For the very first time in my life, I saw images that reflected my world… my rhythms, my life. For the first time, someone in a position of authority who did not look like me affirmed my presence, my value, my person.
I still have that little blue book. And I still feel the glow sparked by my teacher, Ms. Mary Jane Gillespie, who offered this thirsty, languishing soul a long drink a water when I most needed it. When she reached out to say, I believe in you.
I’ve been blessed with many wonderful teachers in my life—in the classroom, at home, & beyond. Have you? If so, tell me, who has made a profound impact on you. Tell me about a teacher who made a difference in your life.
The truly wealthy are those who give until it feels good.
One step at a time. One smile at a time. One hug & one handshake at a time. One day at a time. It is what my African brothers & sisters would call the spirit of “unbutu” (pronouned oo-boon-to).
You make a difference when you say “hello.” Ubuntu. You make a difference when you don’t say “hello” …when you keep moving because you’re too busy today… & you figure that someone else will pick up the slack.
Ubuntu.
A few days ago, I sent an e-mail to a friend in Botswana. She’s almost 70… serving in the Peace Corps. Almost immediately, she sent me an e-mail back to let me know that my note made her day… she also told me about a friend, a young man who stepped out of his childhood to care for his siblings because they’d lost their mom & dad to HIV/AIDS. Among his many fine qualities, he’s a poet. “Poetry,” he said, “allows God’s light to shine through me…” In this way, he shares his light with other youth to inspire them to make something of themselves & their lives. I sent him a poem… & he was so deeply moved that I’d take the time to do this. Such a simple act… reaching out to embrace someone with a blessing of words, a blessing of soul. Now we share our poems across the miles. This is what Nelson Mandela & others would as the spirit of “ubuntu.”
You never know who you will touch, or who needs a touch. And in the grand scheme of things, it’s not really our business to know. It’s simply our business to be kind, generous, & reach out to others.
How can one person make a difference? You already know… a smile, a hug, a handshake, a warm hello. Ubuntu.
Mighty blessings–to you & yours.
The truly wealthy are those who give until it feels good.
As summer fades into fall, I reflect on the Book of Ecclesiastes**, which reminds us: To everything there is a season… a time to sow, a time to reap… a time for all things under the heavens.
As Summer Fades Into Fall
Here are just a few examples of what I’ve been hearing about wonderful seeds planted this year:
A retired teacher: “I started walking 4-5 times a week. I carry a couple cans of peas as “weights.” On my way back, I drop them off at my local food bank.”
A home-school mom: “Twice a month I sort & fold clothes at my church & take them to an agency that provides clothes for those who are homeless. I take my 7-year old daughter with me so she knows what community is all about.”
A florist: “My business has been hit really hard by the recession. Though I’ve moved to a much smaller space to cut costs, I still donate flowers once a week to a local all-volunteer charity.”
A hairdresser: “It’s been about 10 years since I last spoke to my dad. Back then, I said some pretty hateful things to him. A few days ago, I called. I told him how sorry I was. He told me to forget about it… that he loved me. It was so good to hear his voice.”
A teenager: “I cut my neighbor’s grass & trim her hedges since she can’t get around as easily as she used to. She always tries to pay me a little something, but I always say, No thank you, ma’am… I’ll see you again next week.”
Tell me, what wonderful seeds have you sown, & how will you share your harvest of blessings with others?
To everything there is a season,
a time for every purpose under the sun.
A time to be born and a time to die;
a time to plant and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
a time to kill and a time to heal …
a time to weep and a time to laugh;
a time to mourn and a time to dance …
a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing;
a time to lose and a time to seek;
a time to rend and a time to sew;
a time to keep silent and a time to speak;
a time to love and a time to hate;
a time for war and a time for peace.
** Ecclesiastes 3:1-8
The truly wealthy are those who give until it feels good.
A is for… Apples, Applecider, Apple strudel, Awesome Autumn Afternoons, & Artists.
Let’s celebrate Amazing vocal Artist & Awesome, beautiful creatrix& cancer survivor… Barbara Padilla. Experience her Angelic presence & voice as she sings AveMaria:
The truly wealthy are those who give until it feels good.
Today we celebrate the letter B… for Brothers, babies, bells, bubbles, ballroom dancing, & beauty
Let’s celebratethe amazing Beauty of the season—autumn, which reminds me of brilliantly-colored leaves, barns, and bales of hay… & frosty mornings when you can see the brush of your breath as it lingers in the air.
The truly wealthy are those who give until it feels good.
CELEBRATE THE PEOPLE WHO MAKE A DIFFERENCE – ONE DOLLAR AT A TIME
for Courage, Chutzpah, Community, & Carol sChillios… a woman determined & bound to raise $1,000,000 to support our sisters & brothers in AfriCa, Cambodia, & beyond. Founder & Executive Director of the Fabric of Life Foundation, Carol needs just $1 from you… that’s just one buCk in Cold Cash or a Checkfrom you… please help CarolreaCh her goal!
The truly wealthy are those who give until it feels good.
All you need is love… & a heart of service. That’s what Quinn has in spades. Like so many other young people these days, she’s often strapped for cash. Even so, Quinn wanted to do something to contribute to breast cancer research & lend her support in finding a cure. How do I know? Because she’s my daughter.
As a theater arts grad student, she’s got her hands full… when she’s not in class, keeping up with her own studies, or getting ready for a theater production, Quinn teaches the fundamentals of costume production to undergrads & works at a nearby bookstore to make ends meet. In her spare time (“Yeah, right, mom!”), she’s a competitive ballroom dancer & creative artist who enjoys making things. Quinn pours her heart & soul into designing & making ballroom costumes, curating antique clothing, & designing & making quilts—from scratch. Take a peek at Quinn’s Portfolio.
To do her part to contribute to the cure, Quinn took to heart C Arts Gallery’s invitation to create a work of art using only shades of pink. She designed & made a beautiful quilted wall hanging, which is now on view & for sale at the gallery. All or a portion of the proceeds of Quinn’s & other artists’ work will support breast cancer research.
Big hugs & mighty blessings to the courageous women & men & their families who face breast cancer day after day, month after month, year after year… & to Cheryl for her heart & vision… & to all the artists for their imagination & beautiful works of art for the cure.
The truly wealthy are those who give until it feels good.
A picture is worth 1000 words. An exquisite picture simply defies words. So many of you enjoyed this picture, so here it is again.
We all know that saying thank you is more than good manners… expressing thanks is a way of being, a lifestyle. Does that mean no more random acts of kindness? Well, yes… if your acts are really random.
An attitude of gratitude can change your life. Here are just a few of the many arms of gratitude:
- Being receptive to and acknowledging others. Give somebody a high-5 today. They’ll glow & so will you.
- Seeing the inherent good in others. Expect the best & you’ll get that & more.
- Respecting your kinship with the natural world. Treat all of nature as you expect to be treated.
- Learning from all experiences. When you hit a snag, try this: raise your eyebrows, instead of the roof.
- Living your life with an attitude of gratitude. Don’t worry, be happy… it will change your hormones, which will change your life.
- Slowing down to recognize & honor what’s important in your life. When you stop, look, listen, & enjoy, you usher in grace, courtesy, & intention–qualities that are often missing in our lives.
- Giving thanks for the blessings all around & within. When you count your blessings, you provide food for your soul.
The truly wealthy are those who give until it feels good.
The other day, a friend sent me an e-mail called, “Lest We Ever Forget.” Attached to the e-mail were a dozen or so photos of a woman I’d never heard of before—Mrs. Irena Sendlerowa. Who was this smiling, gentle-faced woman?
As I read my friend’s e-mail I learned that Irena was nominated for the Nobel Peace Prize in 2006 for her role in saving hundreds of children from almost certain death in the Nazi concentration camps—2500 children in all. Throughout her long life, Irena insisted that she did nothing special. In fact, she said she’d been brought up to believe that a drowning person must be rescued, regardless of religion and nationality. Mrs. Sendlerowa declared, “The term ‘hero’ irritates me greatly…. I continue to have pangs of conscience that I did so little.” Truly amazing!
Though I wouldn’t dare compare myself to Mrs. Sendlerowa, I was also brought up to help others, to reach out to those who had even less than we did, to give back with our heart & hands. I was taught that true wealth had nothing to do with how much money you had. True wealth was about investing in others not because it was the right thing to do… but like Irena, it was the only thing to do.
You never know whose life you will touch. And in the grand scheme of things, it’s not really your business to know. It’s simply your business to be kind, generous, & reach out to others.
Ask yourself, whose life is different today because of your touch?
The truly wealthy are those who give until it feels good.
The other day, a friend sent me an e-mail called, “Lest We Forget.” Attached to the e-mail were a dozen or so photos of a woman I’d never heard of before—Mrs. Irena Sendlerowa. Who was this smiling, gentle-faced woman? As I read my friend’s e-mail I learned that Irena was nominated for the Nobel Peace Prize in 2006 for her role in saving hundreds of children from almost certain death in the Nazi concentration camps—2500 children in all. Throughout her long life, Irena insisted that she did nothing special. In fact, she said she’d been brought up to believe that a drowning person must be rescued, regardless of religion and nationality. Mrs. Sendlerowa declared, “The term ‘hero’ irritates me greatly…. I continue to have pangs of conscience that I did so little.” Truly amazing!
Though I wouldn’t dare compare myself to Mrs. Sendlerowa, I was also brought up to help others, to reach out to those who had even less than we did, to give back with our heart & hands. I was taught that true wealth had nothing to do with how much money you had. True wealth was about investing in others not because it was the right thing to do… but like Irena, it was the only thing to do.
You never know whose life you will touch. And in the grand scheme of things, it’s not really your business to know. It’s simply your business to be kind, generous, & reach out to others.
Ask yourself, whose life is different today because of your touch?
The truly wealthy are those who give until it feels good.
A few weeks ago, a friend & fellow poet asked me… how I was doing, especially given my devotion to lifting up others. “Gloria,” she asked, “How do you turn your FEEL GOOD vibe around for yourself?” Lovely question. Here’s how I do it:
I count my blessings—every single day… many times a day! My health, my family, treasured friends, moments of solitude, a glorious soak at the end of a long day.
I count my blessings for sun or rain. Each day is extravagantly wonderful.
I acknowledge the blessings all around me. When I do, I get the added reward of increasing my awareness so I can see & experience even more blessings. A blade of grass pushing up through a crack in the sidewalk. A blazing sunset. A child’s laughter.
I count the blessings of gratitude & faith… water & bread, super-rich nourishment for body & soul.
I know that blessings, like love, multiply when you give them away—when you pass them on to someone else.
And because I know each day I’ll meet someone who loves the way I do… & someone who doesn’t.
You never know who needs your touch. And in the grand scheme of things, it’s not really your business to know. It’s simply your business to be kind, generous, & reach out to others.
How can YOU feel good every day? It’s simple. Count your blessings & pass them on. When you do, you’ll make a difference that makes all the difference to someone else.
If you’re like most people, you want your life to count for something. But you wonder, “what can I possibly do to make a difference?” Here are a few simple things you can do… ask yourself*:
- What did I share or give away today—love, a wink, a warm smile?
- Did I say thank you or appreciate someone today?
- Did I see joy in someone else’s eyes… did I share their joy or pass them by?
- If I saw sadness or terror, did I ease someone else’s sorrow or fear?
- Did I hurt someone’s feelings… if so, did I say I’m sorry?
- Did I correct any negative thoughts or actions?
- Did I pray for someone else’s spiritual, emotional, or physical wellbeing?
- Did I dare to say Yes to myself AND reach out to others?
- Did I dare to be fully me… to wear my soul on the outside?
If you said Yes to any of these small acts of kindness & mercy, you made a difference today. By reading this post, you made a difference… in yourself.
Learn more. Join me for my free teleclass—Legacy Living: Make Your Life Count: Tuesday, November 10, 6pm PST (Pacific Standard Time).
During this hour of power, I’ll show you how to shift your focus from “me” to “we.” I’ll also discuss practical steps you can apply today to make a difference one step at a time, one person at a time, one day at a time. If you’re ready to transform your ordinary life into an extraordinary one, join me. To register, just click this link: http://www.globalteleclass.com. Share this special opportunity with others… tell a friend!
Be one of the first five participants to call or log in to my teleclass, & I’ll send you a complimentary copy of my best-selling book—Legacy Living: The Six Covenants for Personal & Professional Excellence. You’ll also need to send me your contact information, so you can receive your free book.
* Big hugs & hallelujahs to my dear friend Joan, a Peace Corps volunteer serving in Kasane, Botswana. Thank you, Joan, for sharing your great big heart & these questions as we learn from one another to be the difference that makes a difference.
If you’re like me… & most other folks, you want to make a difference… you want to leave the world better off than the way you found it. In short, you want to make your life to count for something. But how? Especially when you’re up to your ears with the many demands of life–your job or trying to find one, raising children, tending to key relationships, caring for aging parents, & on & on. Not only are you exhausted at the end of the day, but you wonder, “what can I possibly do to make a difference?” First, take a deep breath & know you don’t have to find a solution for world peace. All you have to do is express yourself in a way that works for you. Here are a simple things you can do… ask yourself:
- Who has supported me this month or this year?
- Have I called or written a note of gratitude to him or her?
- Who has said “I believe in you” to encourage you?
- Have I passed this blessing of faith on to someone else–to a child, a peer, or an elder?
- What did I do to support the environment today?
- Have I forgiven someone today who has hurt me?
- Did I pray for someone else’s spiritual, emotional, intellectual, or physical wellbeing?
- Did I dare to say Yes to myself today… to be fully me… to wear my soul on the outside?
If you said Yes to any of these small acts of compassion & kindness, you made a difference today. And by reading this post, you also made a difference… in yourself. And that’s always the best place to begin.
Learn more. Join me for my free teleclass—Legacy Living: Make Your Life Count: Tuesday, November 10, 6pm PST (Pacific Standard Time).
During this hour of power, I’ll show you how to shift your focus from “me” to “we” I’ll also discuss practical steps you can apply today to make a difference one step at a time, one person at a time, one day at a time. If you’re ready to transform your ordinary life into an extraordinary one, join me. To register, just click this link: http://www.globalteleclass.com.
Share this special opportunity with others… tell a friend!
Be one of the first five participants to call or log in to my teleclass, & I’ll send you a complimentary copy of my best-selling book-Legacy Living: The Six Covenants for Personal & Professional Excellence. You’ll also need to send me your contact information, so you can receive your free book.
Today I was talking with a friend, a young mother of three. She told me that in the past several days, she was overcome with a spell of grumpiness… brought on by who knows what. When she was at her grumpiest, her husband reminded her that what we pay attention to multiplies. Not surprisingly, when she remembered the gift of gratitude & focused on her blessings… her grumpiness was replaced with thanksgiving… & joy!
In this harvest season, many of us in the U.S. are preparing for the Thanksgiving holidays. Time with loved ones, a savory meal, shared memories. Whether or not you celebrate Thanksgiving, know that gratitude changes everything.
This is a season to pause… & to thank God for all the goodness He has blessed you with—your family, friends, health, employment, & whatever talents you have.
In each of our lives, there are so many good things we take for granted.
When you pause, ask yourself: who or what are you grateful for in your life? Your children, wife, husband, parents, special friends? Your health, job, home? All the wonderful people in your life who cherish you simply for being you?
In this season, let us remember to count our blessings & to humbly give thanks. And let us remember that gratitude is as necessary as air. In fact, it is essential “…for human growth, joy, and creativity. Take away the daily experience and expression of gratitude, and life is quickly diminished. Like a weakened immune system, the spirit is left vulnerable to the diseases of cynicism, anger, low-grade depression, or at least an edgy sense of dissatisfaction. Gratitude-deprived, we suffer a relentless loss of vitality and delight.”**
Gratitude changes everything.
Pass It On!
** Excerpt from Seasons of Grace, by Alan Jones, former Dean of Grace Cathedral, & John O’Neill, President of the Center for Leadership Renewal
Just as exercising regularly will help keep you physically fit, having a sense of purpose will keep you spiritually fit—& it will also keep you unruffled when faced with stress.
During the holidays, more than any other time, it’s critical to focus on who & what has heart & meaning in your life. This Thanksgiving, slow down, pause, & reflect on these affirmations:
- I am authentic & full-hearted in what I say & do.
- I say Yes to what & who has heart & meaning for me.
- I can & do say No to others… & say it as a complete sentence.
- I align my priorities with how I spend my time.
- I invest in making a difference in others’ lives.
- I do what I love for work & leisure.
Ask yourself, which of these affirmations apply to you… & what can you do to focus on those that give you a lift & a sense of forward momentum.
Consider the affirmations you can turn into goals—not just for today but throughout the upcoming holidays & into the New Year—to help you stay focused, unruffled, & on track so you can enjoy your loved ones & the many other blessings of the season.
As we segue from the season of harvest to the winter holidays, may you enjoy the blessings of Sanctuary. A few days ago, when my daughter was home for the Thanksgiving holidays, we reminisced about our long-ago annual retreat to one of the great rain forests of the Pacific Northwest.
When she was a youngster, we’d go to a lovely lodge on the edge of the forest and enjoy a few days of quiet before the rush of the holiday season. Beside the warmth of the fire in the main lodge, we’d play cribbage, Scrabble, and Yahtze… and spend long hours writing letters and cards to family and other loved ones to honor Christmas and Kwanzaa. As my daughter grew older, she’d take her cello and practice in one of the rustic gathering rooms. We even played their old piano… serenading the staff and the few other guests who, like us, had come to pause and unwind.
That’s what Sanctuary is all about.
During this season of festivities and frenzied shopping, it’s important to pause, reflect on who and what’s important in your life, and take time to care for yourself.
Here are a few simple ways to pause for Sanctuary this season:
- Embrace the holidays with an open heart, mind, and spirit.
- Look at this season through the eyes of a child—filled with joy and excitement.
- Give the gift that keeps on giving—your kindness and a heart-felt smile.
- Reach out to others with a word of encouragement… or a simple prayer, to help them feel better and you feel more connected and joyful.
I hope you enjoy the blessings of Sanctuary and of the season—Christmas, Hanukkah, and Kwanzaa.
Sanctuaryrenews our spirit and feeds our soul. Not only is Sanctuary a time-out-of-time for self-care, it’s also a universal, time-honored way to care for others. Sanctuary is about “me” and “we.” When I was a little girl, my mother used to tell me and my four sisters to “make yourself useful”… even though we were still doing our chores.
Little did I know, my mom was teaching us not busyness for busyness sake, she was planting seeds of Sanctuary. By giving, reaching out, and being of service to others, we received gifts that money can’t buy—blessings of Sanctuary: compassion, abundance, and joy.
Here are a few simple ways to take care of yourself and make yourself useful to others—at the same time:
- As the days grow shorter, take time to pause… and say a simple thank you for the many blessings of each day—a roof over your head, friends, food on your table… maybe even a few extra bucks to buy some beans or a loaf of bread for someone else.
- Put on some soothing music and light a candle to remind yourself of the many miracles in your life… and to bring much-needed light and prayer into some of the darkest corners of our world—the 75% of people around the world who don’t have a roof over their head, who sleep each night hungry, hopeless, and afraid… who walk miles every single day in search of clean drinking water.
- Read an inspirational book—and then send it and a few more of your other gently used books to our service men and women. Take a moment and include a note of gratitude for all they do to defend our country.
- Give thanks. Gratitude changes us. Literally! When you say thanks with a full, joyful heart, your body produces more dopamine, which is why you just feel better when you reach out to others. As you extend gratitude to others—join us in the Seattle community on Tuesday, December 8, as we express our deep gratitude and keep vigil for four slain officers and their families. Put a blue light in your window or on your front porch in gratitude and remembrance.
- Take a walk—alone or with a friend or another loved one. In silence, as you walk, count your blessings… share them with your companion along your way—and for every step you take, consider donating some amount of your time to a local community center, school, church, mosque, synagogue, group home, or shelter… knowing that getting involved is just as important as your money, if not more so.
- Spend time in nature, focusing your attention on something you don’t normally notice—birds, leafless trees with nests in them, rocks, colors, the sound of wind, rain, snow beneath your feet, your own mighty heartbeat—and remember that you’re part of nature, not separate from it. Care for all of nature as if it belonged to you, because indeed it does.
Enjoy the blessings of Sanctuary and the season—Christmas, Hanukkah, and Kwanzaa.
Most of us remember the lovely song “The 12 Days of Christmas.” It begins, “On the first day of Christmas, my true love gave to me a partridge in a pear tree.” On the second day, two turtle doves and on the third day, three French hens, and so on.
In this season of blessings, I’m celebrating the 12 Days of Christmas by sharing some of my blessings with you. Each day for the next 12 days, I’ll give away copies of my books and CDs, and a coaching session as a way of saying THANK YOU for your abiding faith and support.
Today, December 12, the first person who sends an e-mail with the subject line “The First Day of Christmas” will receive a copy of my best-selling book Legacy Living. Please use this address: Day1@gloriaburgesscom.
Wishing you a joyous holiday season and wondrous New Year!
Pass It On!
Most of us remember the lovely song “The 12 Days of Christmas.” It begins, “On the first day of Christmas, my true love gave to me a partridge in a pear tree.” On the second day, two turtle doves and on the third day, three French hens, and so on.
In this season of blessings, I’m celebrating the 12 Days of Christmas by sharing some of my blessings with you. Each day for the next 12 days, I’ll give away copies of my books and CDs, and a coaching session as a way of saying THANK YOU for your abiding faith and support.
Today, December 12, the first person who sends an e-mail with the subject line “The First Day of Christmas” will receive a copy of my best-selling book Legacy Living. Please use this address: Day1@gloriaburgesscom.
Wishing you a joyous holiday season and wondrous New Year!
“On the second day of Christmas, my true love gave to me–two turtle doves…”
In this season of blessings, I’m celebrating the 12 Days of Christmas by sharing some of my blessings with you. Each day for the next 12 days, I’ll give away copies of my books and CDs, and a coaching session as a way of saying THANK YOU for your abiding faith and support.
Today, December 13, the first two people who send an e-mail with the subject line “The Second Day of Christmas” will receive a copy of my best-selling book Legacy Living. Please use this address: Day2@gloriaburgesscom.
Wishing you a joyous holiday season and wondrous New Year!
“On the fourth day of Christmas, my true love gave to me—four calling birds…”
In this season of blessings, I’m celebrating the 12 Days of Christmas by sharing some of my blessings with you. Each day for the next 12 days, I’ll give away copies of my books and CDs, and a coaching session as a way of saying THANK YOU for your abiding faith and support.
Today, December 16, the first four people who send an e-mail with the subject line “The Fourth Day of Christmas” will receive a copy of my poetry and music CD Journey of the Rose. Please use this address: Day4@gloriaburgesscom.
Wishing you a joyous holiday season and wondrous New Year!
“On the fifth day of Christmas, my true love gave to me—five gold rings…”
In this season of blessings, I’m celebrating the 12 Days of Christmas by sharing some of my blessings with you. Each day for the next 12 days, I’ll give away copies of my books and CDs, and a coaching session as a way of saying THANK YOU for your abiding faith and support.
Today, December 17, the first five people who send an e-mail with the subject line “The 5th Day of Christmas” will receive a complimentary half-hour coaching session. Please use this address: Day5@gloriaburgesscom.
Wishing you a joyous holiday season and wondrous New Year!
Stop. Look. Listen. Remember these life-saving words we learned as children to guide us before crossing a busy street? ‘Tis the season to slow down and heed this simple yet profound advice, a life-giving way to create Sanctuary for yourself.
Stop. Press the pause button… so you can let go of the busyness of your day.
Look. Take time to really look at your busyness… and commit to set aside a few routine chores and responsibilities.
Listen. Take a few deep breaths. As you breathe in and out, tune in to yourself… and with an open heart, listen to what is present for you.
When your day seems to be spinning out of control, remember the life-giving blessings of Sanctuary… and remember to Stop. Look. Listen.
Enjoy the blessings of the season and of Sanctuary.
“On the sixth day of Christmas, my true love gave to me—six geese a laying.”
In this season of blessings, I’m celebrating the 12 Days of Christmas by sharing some of my blessings with you. We’re on Day 6!! Only six more to go. Yes, I’m still giving away copies of my books and CDs, and free coaching sessions as a way of saying THANK YOU for your abiding faith and support.
Today, December 18, the first six people who send an e-mail with the subject line “The 6th Day of Christmas” will receive a complimentary copy of my best-selling book, Legacy Living. Please use this address: Day6@gloriaburgesscom.
Wishing you a joyous holiday season and wondrous New Year!
“On the seventh day of Christmas, my true love gave to me—seven swans a swimming.”
In this season of blessings, I’m celebrating the 12 Days of Christmas by sharing some of my blessings with you. Yes, I’m still giving away copies of my books and CDs, and free coaching sessions as a way of saying THANK YOU for your abiding faith and support.
Today, December 19, the first seven people who send an e-mail with the subject line “The 7th Day of Christmas” will receive a complimentary copy of my best-selling book, Legacy Living. Please use this address: Day7@gloriaburgesscom.
Wishing you a joyous holiday season and wondrous New Year!
“On the eighth day of Christmas, my true love gave to me—eight maids a milking.”
In this season of blessings, I’m celebrating the 12 Days of Christmas by sharing some of my blessings with you. Yes, I’m still giving away copies of my books and CDs, and free coaching sessions as a way of saying THANK YOU for your abiding faith and support.
Today, December 20, the first eight people who send an e-mail with the subject line “The 8th Day of Christmas” will receive a complimentary copy of my best-selling book,Legacy Living and aCD of Journey of the Rose. Please use this address: Day8@gloriaburgesscom.
Wishing you a joyous holiday season and wondrous New Year!
“On the ninth day of Christmas, my true love gave to me—nine ladies dancing.”
In this season of blessings, I’m celebrating the 12 Days of Christmas by sharing some of my blessings with you. Yes, I’m still giving away copies of my books and CDs, and free coaching sessions as a way of saying THANK YOU for your abiding faith and support.
Today, December 21, the first nine people who send an e-mail with the subject line “The 9th Day of Christmas” will receive a complimentary copy of my best-selling book,Legacy Living and aCD of Journey of the Rose. Please use this address: Day9@gloriaburgesscom.
Wishing you a joyous holiday season and wondrous New Year!
“On the tenth day of Christmas, my true love gave to me—ten lords a leaping.”
In this season of blessings, I’m celebrating the 12 Days of Christmas by sharing some of my blessings with you. Yes, I’m still giving away copies of my books and CDs, and free coaching sessions as a way of saying THANK YOU for your abiding faith and support.
Today, December 22, the first ten people who send an e-mail with the subject line “The 10th Day of Christmas” will receive a complimentary copy of my latest book,Dare to Your Soul on the Outside. Please use this address: Day10@gloriaburgesscom.
Wishing you a joyous holiday season and wondrous New Year!
“On the 11th day of Christmas, my true love gave to me—11 pipers piping.”
In this season of blessings, I’m celebrating the 12 Days of Christmas by sharing some of my blessings with you. Yes, I’m still giving away copies of my books and CDs, and free coaching sessions as a way of saying THANK YOU for your abiding faith and support.
Today, December 23, the first 11 people who send an e-mail with the subject line “The 11th Day of Christmas” will receive a complimentary copy of my best-selling book,Legacy Living. Please use this address: Day11@gloriaburgesscom.
Wishing you a joyous holiday season and wondrous New Year!
“On the 12th day of Christmas, my true love gave to me—12 drummers drumming.”
In this season of blessings, I’m celebrating the 12 Days of Christmas by sharing some of my blessings with you. This is the last day this year… of giving away copies of my books and CDs, and free coaching sessions as a way of saying THANK YOU for your abiding faith and support.
Today, December 24, the first 12 people who send an e-mail with the subject line “The 12th Day of Christmas” will receive a complimentary copy of my poetry and music CD—Journey of the Rose. Please use this address: Day12@gloriaburgesscom.
Wishing you a joyous holiday season and wondrous New Year!
My family had great Christmases up until I was six years old. We’d have Christmas trees coated in fake snow, and my mother would paint Christmas scenes on all the windows. It was my favorite time of year. On Christmas morning we’d open our presents, and then my brothers and I would go outside to compare toys with the neighbors.
After my sixth birthday, my parents became pretty serious drug addicts, and we barely had money for food, let alone Christmas presents. On the Christmas of my seventh year, I remember waking to no Christmas presents, and I thought that maybe Santa didn’t bring me something because I misbehaved. The next year, I made a concerted effort to be the perfect daughter. I took baths when I was told. I did all my homework. I ate my collard greens. I didn’t stay up late watching the Million Dollar Movie.
When Christmas came, I was certain that Santa would remember to leave me a present. Unfortunately, I woke up to nothing. I sat in front of our cold bare fireplace and cried. My mother came out and asked me what was wrong. “Santa didn’t leave me anything!” I sobbed. “I was good all year! I made sure! What did I do wrong?” My mother hugged me and said, “You are a good daughter. The best. The reason you have nothing is because there is no Santa, and I didn’t have the money to buy you presents.”
I spent the rest of Christmas day and many Christmas days following looking out the window watching all the neighbor kids play with their new presents. I was too ashamed to go outside with nothing.
When I was ten years old, my parents had my little brother, Victor. Victor was a very loud, exuberant, and happy child. We were in the poorest of circumstances, and he didn’t seem to care. Victor was just happy to have family. When Victor was four almost five, he became consciously aware of Santa Claus and Christmas, and he knew exactly what he wanted from Santa, a Transformer. A Transformer was a toy that could be a car one minute and with a few adjustments turn into a super hero robot. Victor had spoke of nothing for weeks except of how he wanted this Transformer.
Then Christmas Eve came, and Victor was just as excited as I remember being at his age. He was jumping around and yakking at everyone about how he was going to have a Transformer when he woke the next day. He was starting to get on my father’s nerves. My father at the time was trying to relax by watching t.v. and smoking a joint. He pretty much snapped at Victor and told him Santa wasn’t going to bring him anything if he didn’t go to bed. Victor then took off to bed, and I watched my dad continue his high with a line of heroin. It was obvious to me that my father had no plan of getting Victor his Transformer, and my mother didn’t seem to have any plan either.
I thought to myself, “There’s no way I’m going to let him wake up to nothing.” I searched the house for whatever change I could find, but it didn’t amount to much. Then the idea came to me that I could make a Transformer out of things in the house. I found several blocks of wood, springs, and screws. I also found an old brown throw rug in the garage. With the wood and springs, I fashioned together a wooden doll that folded into a makeshift car, and then opened up into a robot. I then made a teddy bear out of the old throw rug. Considering I had neither sewing nor crafts skills, I have to say that they were the ugliest objects ever. I do have to say the wooden robot had a cute sort of ugly about it because the springs made its body parts bob every which way.
I then went out into our back yard where we had a giant pine tree. I cut branches off the tree and fashioned a goofy little Christmas tree, and I decorated with buttons and bobbles I found around the house. I also strung popcorn and hung that on the tree. When Victor woke up, he saw the tree and the presents. I was so nervous that he wouldn’t like the Transformer, but when he opened it up, he a look on his face was as if he were looking at the real thing. He loved it. He carried that wooden robot and ugly teddy bear everywhere he went. He called the robot his Transformer.
There are many things I could choose to remember about my past Christmases because there have been more bad than good, but that Christmas with Victor is the one Christmas that I feel was the only true Christmas of my life. That Christmas with Victor taught me that it didn’t matter what you gave a person for Christmas just as long as you give with your whole heart. That was the only Christmas I ever truly did.
As we say goodbye to 2009, we reflect on our many blessings with profound gratitude for family, friends, our sisters and brothers around the world, and this incredible blue marble we call home.
Looking ahead to the New Year, I trust that 2010 will bring you profound peace, courage, and joy.
How will you prepare for new beginnings, challenges, opportunities, and joys? As you reflect on these questions, I offer you this New Year’s blessing:
- May you enjoy abundance wherever you go.
- May your soul be lit with wonder and joy.
- May you devote yourself to whomever or whatever moves you.
- May you share your blessings at someone else’s table.
- May you delight in wearing your soul on the outside: be yourself, give back to others, and pass your blessings on to someone else along the way.
I trust that your 2010 is off to a wonderful beginning. Last weekend, I led a workshop on the theme of “Resolutions” for the New Year. Instead of using the typical definition for resolutions, I invited folks to consider the musical definition. In music, resolutions means to bring something that is discordant, out of tune, or inharmonious into a state of being in tune & harmonious.
Then I asked a few questions:
- What’s out of tune, or out of alignment, in your life right now?
- How is this lack of alignment holding you back?
- What must you give up to rebalance your life, to resolve what’s out of balance?
- What one small step will you commit to today as your first step in resolving that imbalance in your life?
To prepare for new beginnings, we must often let go of something—old habits, patterns, things, relationships, or whatever it is that we no longer need in our lives.
May 2010 be the year that you dare to wear your soul on the outside & enjoy the blessings of gratitude, faith, love, vision, integrity, creative action, and legacy.
Among Dr. King’s many commitments, he was profoundly committed to community and service. To this end, Dr. King encouraged us to ask ourselves: What are you doing for others?
During the past ten years, I’ve hosted tributes to honor the legacy of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.–the icon and the man. Each year, a lovely community gathers in the Seattle area at a place called Third Place Commons.
Each year is different yet connected to previous years by the bond of community. One year I featured videos of Dr. King’s remarkable speeches and marches, and I led the audience in singing civil rights songs, call and responses style. Everyone beamed—children, elders, and those in between. Another year, we drew on our collective imagination to create a gigantic moving sculpture to reflect our vision of the Beloved Community. A few years ago, I recruited teachers and students in local schools to create a program featuring student work. They sang, danced, read their own poetry, and to our utter amazement constructed a marvelous oversized portrait of Dr. King before our very eyes. Using 8.5 x 11 “tiles,” each with some part of Dr. King’s face, the students silently positioned their tiles into a frame, creating a lovely mosaic of Dr. King. for several weeks, we left in on display. That year, in addition to creating their wonderful program, I invited the teachers and students to extend their learning about Dr. King and the many other warriors of the Civil Rights Movement. I invited them to commit to learning about this vital aspect of our nation’s history as a living, enduring part of their day-to-day curriculum.
There are so many ways to serve. Mine is to do what I can with I have where I am… to build community—through poetry, conversation, singing, laughter, art, dance, encouragement, and education.
Named for the dual-faced Roman god Janus, January is about looking backward and looking forward. Drawing on lessons learned from the past few years, what’s the “secret sauce” for success going forward?
The answer is simple and might surprise you.
First, let’s redefine success. If the past few years have taught us anything, they’ve taught us that success is not defined by money, prestige, or possessions. Going forward, try this simple recipe for success:
- Be yourself. The true measure of success is defined by only one thing–your capacity to be your authentic self, which means bringing your real self to your relationships and to what you do. Don’t hide out. Let your light shine.
- Be prepared. This means having a game plan AND a backup plan, so you’re ready for all the little things that are sure to crop up along the way.
- Less really is more. In other words, be content with your life the way it is. Research tells us that “life satisfaction” is one of the greatest predictors of success, so turn up the joy and happiness.
- Treat yourself to good relationships. Make a habit of being around supportive people. It’s not only good for your health, it’s also good for the ones you’re with; your positive energy and vibe will rub off on the people around you.
Whether you’re feeling well or under the weather—here are a few ways you can add laughter to lighten up your life.
- Look for comics and cartoons that make you smile. Use them as screen savers.
- Keep a stash of silly toys on your desk. Don’t just look at them… play with them!
- Put up photos on your fridge of you and your friends having fun.
- Collect quips and jokes that make you laugh and tune in to the light side.
- How’s this for smile therapy: once or twice a week, my doctor wears socks that don’t match… with “high-water” pants to heighten the effect. Purple and green. Red and yellow. His favorite smile inducer—neon orange and hot pink.
A few months ago, a friend and fellow poet asked me in so many words if I ever got tired of being so positive…. lifting up others. I said no. Even so, there are times when I yearn for an uplifting embrace from others. Just because. Right now especially.
A couple of weeks ago I underwent surgery; I’m still on the mend. I’ve received many uplifting calls, notes, poems, stories… and welcome yours if wish to share.
Right now, I’m grateful for so many and so much. Here are just a few:
- Before, during, and now after my surgery, my husband and soul mate has been my friend, lover, confidante, and companion. John and I have enjoyed the glorious blessing of a legacy relationship. This July, we’ll celebrate 35 years of marriage. At the moment, he’s partnering with me to teach my weekly leadership class at our church until I’m well enough to do so.
- My daughter Quinn, a grad student at Boston U who works full-time while pursuing for her MFA… and sometimes struggles to makes ends meet. As you know, it’s tough out there. Through it all, she embodies what it means to wear your soul on the outside. Shortly after my surgery, she called from Boston; she told me she loved me and that she wanted to send me flowers. But when she did the math the charges for shipping, handling, delivery, and taxes exceeded the cost of the flowers. I told her that she’d already given me flowers; she’d called to express her love.
- A month or so before my surgery, a friend who had been a physician’s assistant reminded me to take good care of myself before, during, and after surgery. Her blessings were many, including four words that have become a kind of poem: rest, heal, recover, discover. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve thought of her and her blessing.
- To strengthen myself—spiritually, emotionally, and so many other ways, I checked out a few CDs and books from my library; to support one of my favorite independent bookshops, I also bought a few books as part of my Super Enriched Soul Food Diet. These past few days, I’ve sipped and dined on lovely music and words, including Have a Little Faith by Mitch Albom. Like people, books come into our lives for a reason. This little book offered me the gift of reminiscing about one of my old stomping grounds—Detroit, Michigan… and embracing folks whose circumstances may be vastly different than yours, but whose challenges, hopes, and dreams might as well be identical… and witnessing someone struggle with faith until that ember glows strong and vibrant once again.
- There are so many other women and men in my Personal Village who deserve a mention. You’re sure to hear about some of them in upcoming posts. Stay tuned.
For now, thanks for tuning in… and for holding me in your hearts and prayers.
Every now and then a poet comes along who is gifted in the art of story, song, image, gesture, and emotion… she is also a gift of a human being.
Lucille Clifton is such a poet and person; her special gifts make me sing, dance, and shout.
Just a few days ago, Ms. Lucille crossed over. Through her poetry and person, she brought truth, wisdom, wonder, joy, disturbance, sorrow, light, laughter, and so much more.
Gifted with a long stride of spirit, Lucille was compassionate, joyous, and comforting in the ways of grandmothers, aunties, mothers, and sistah-friends. A dozen or so years ago, I had the good fortune to meet Ms. Lucille. After one of her readings at the Dodge Poetry Festival, I introduced myself… and though there was a throng of folks waiting to speak with her, I might as well have been the only person there, because that’s how she made you feel.
Though Ms. Lucille has crossed over, the presences that inhabit her poems shall remain.
Lucille, whose name means light, was and is a beacon for those who hope to find their way through fog, for those who yearn to push away from the shoals, for those who dare to row into the depths. She was and is a keeper of the flame for this generation and future generations.
By her luminous presence and the quilt of presences in her body of work, Lucille will continue to remind us of what is true, human, and Divine.
Ms. Lucille, Sistah-Friend… thank you for your life and poems of hallelujahs and blues; thank you for showing us that blessed kinship between writing, and resurrection and redemption.
Sometimes it’s hard to remember that small things can make a big difference. Here are just a few ways you can make a positive impact today.
- See with new eyes. Focus on the positive instead of the negative. Your positive vibe and outlook will have a wonderful ripple effect on those around you.
- Let it go. Clean out your closets and bookshelves. If you haven’t worn it in a year, you probably won’t wear it this year. Donate your gently used books to your local library.
- Love the ones you’re with. Tell your mate and your children much they mean to you.
- Don’t grumble, step it up. Don’t wait for someone else to nab that stray candy wrapper or empty coffee cup. Pick it up and pitch it.
- Amaze yourself. Count your blessings—every single day… and notice how they multiply.
During the past several weeks, I hit the pause button on my blog for some much-needed rest and relaxation. As you know, not too long ago I underwent surgery. I was blessed to have a wonderful surgeon and care team. And being in the embrace of the Great Physician, I know I’m always in excellent hands.
Today, I’m delighted to report that I’m mending well and counting my blessings… BIG time… because today:
- It’s spring in the Pacific Northwest.
- There are so many flowers are already in bloom—lovely grape hyacinth, fragrant daffodils, forsythia, and early-blooming pink and purple rhododendrons. One of our earliest bloomers is aptly called Christmas Cheer!
- I went to the beach and witnessed wave after wave of deep-blue breakers fueled by a crisp, cold wind barreling down from Canada.
- I sing hallelujah and thank you!! I’m thrilled to be alive. Not only am I mending well, I’m richly blessed by so many wonderful folks in my life—my husband, daughter, mom, sisters, nieces, nephew, uncles, aunts, students, neighbors, clients, coworkers, and even total strangers… people who consistently make time in their busy day to call, send a note, say a prayer… to encourage me and lift me up. xoxo – I’m humbled and blessed that you’re in my life.
When you say something you later regret or you make a mistake, do you go into churn mode—where you turn it over and over in your mind and hammer yourself along the way? I do. Or, as a recovering churner, I will say I used to. So this advice is for me and you.
Forgive yourself. Then let it go.
As you let it go, promise yourself that you’ll bathe yourself in the same kind of compassion that you so easily lavish on others. And remember that self-compassion goes a long way. It helps us:
- Love ourselves—flaws and all.
- Know that we’re all works in progress—and not just any work. You are a marvelous masterpiece in the making.
- Practice softening our eyes and the rest of our bodies, so we can see ourselves as God sees us.
- Know that life-long learning doesn’t have to cost of anything more than a look in the mirror.
- Be on purpose so we can choose differently next time around.
Pass It On!
When you say something that you later regret or you make a mistake, do you go into churn mode—where you turn it over and over in your mind and hammer yourself along the way? I do. Or, as a recovering churner, I will say I used to. So this advice is for me and you.
Forgive yourself. Then let it go.
As you let it go, promise yourself that you’ll bathe yourself in the same kind of compassion that you so easily lavish on others. And remember that self-compassion goes a long way. It helps us:
Love ourselves—flaws and all.
Know that we’re all works in progress—and not just any work. You are a marvelous masterpiece in the making.
Practice softening our eyes and the rest of our bodies, so t we can see ourselves as God sees us.
Know that life-long learning doesn’t have to cost of anything more than a look in the mirror.
Be on purpose so we can choose differently next time around.
As I reflect the many people–parents, sisters, grandparents, aunts, uncles, friends, & neighbors–who poured blessings into my life, I think about the power & blessings of family… the power and blessing of community. It didn’t matter if the folks in my community were related to me or not, I fondly hold them in my heart as members of my Personal Village.
What if we offered ourselves as ally and guide to others–as steward in the Personal Village of someone we love and beyond?
- Because when we open ourselves to others, we invite them into our lives, which opens the window of collaboration… and to celebrating the people in our midst and beyond.
- Because when we celebrate and lift others up, it becomes easier to address challenges in relationships, communities, and the world around us.
- Because when we reach out to address challenges, we create a golden pathway that leads to opportunity, creativity, and possibility.
- Because when we set our table with the feast of possibility, we provide bread for the journey for those who suffer adversity and calamity.
- Because when we honor and respect those who suffer and those who are vulnerable, we extend compassion, sanctuary, and peace.
- Because when we tender peace, we pour loving balm into small and great injuries and wounds-our own and others’.
Each moment, a ray of light. Each conversation, a gesture of hope. Each day, another prayer, another stitch. And so, we mend our world.
Mighty blessings to you… and to the keepers in your Personal Village.
Celebrate National Poetry Month with me! Poetry offers us so much—a gesture… glorious and tangible as a High-Five to humanity, a door to beauty, a crust of bread for the journey.
Here’s to poets Langston Hughes, Mary Oliver, June Jordan, William Shakespeare, and Wallace Carlos Williams, in that order (I’ve changed the formatting, not the words):
- Hold fast to dreams, for if dreams die, life is a broken-winged bird that cannot fly.
- Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?
- We are the ones we have been waiting for.
- The quality of mercy is not strained. It falleth as a gentle rain from heaven.
- It is difficult to get the news from poems, yet men die miserably every day for lack of what is found there.
Thanks to each of you–poets and readers–for lighting a candle against the dark.
One more time… Celebrate National Poetry Month with me! Poetry offers us so much—a mirror, a glimpse into another’s heart… a fresh breeze, a song, a shout that can only come through the soul.
Here’s to five poets—Jalal ad-Din Rumi, Marge Piercy, Lucille Clifton, Stanley Kunitz, and yours truly. (I’ve changed the formatting, not the words):
- This is love: to fly toward a secret sky, to cause a hundred veils to fall each moment. First to let go of life. Finally, to take a step without feet.
- Time flows through us like water. The past and the dead speak through us. We breathe out our children’s children, blessing.
- Come celebrate with me that everyday something has tried to kill me and has failed.
- Darling, do you remember the man you married? Touch me, remind me who I am.
- I want to know if you will throw away your cloak and show your heart, if you will dare to wear your soul on the outside.
Overslept this morning. Time for only a few sips of coffee. Breakfast–a jelly doughnut–on the run. Somebody even had the nerve to cut you off in traffic.
You can still turn your bad hair day into a good hair day.
Calm down. Count to ten, or fifty… if you need to.
Breathe. Breathe out irritation. Breathe in smiles of children.
Reflect. What was it that irritated you in first place? Ask yourself: do I really to sweat the small stuff?
Reboot. Take a short spin around the block. Get a cool drink of water. While you’re up make the rounds and greet your coworkers.
Turn thanks. Find at least one thing to say thank you for right here and now. When you express joy and gratitude, your body produces more feel good hormones, which makes it impossible to stay in a bad hair mood.
Get ready for a good hair day. Prepare tonight for tomorrow: set out your oatmeal and banana so you have breakfast on the kitchen counter ready to go. Give yourself 10 extra minutes when you set your alarm. Count your blessings–you have a bed to sleep in tonight… then visualize yourself rested, renewed, and rarin’ to go.
Your life is a poem, a mighty spiritual, a testimony of gratitude, faith, and love. And this letter is a celebration of you.
Your road has been long; your journey has not been easy. Bigotry and prejudice fortified you, teaching you how to love even more deeply and how to see not just with your anatomical eyes, but also to see with the eyes of your heart. Greatest of all, you relied on God’s love and strength rather than your own. In this you gave me the gift of faith and unconditional love for myself and others.
You also gave me what my sister-friend and fellow poet Nikky Finney would say is the gift of being “a woman with keys.” A woman with keys moves in a particular way and she has a responsibility, an obligation to help others find theirs, help them move through their rooms, cross their thresholds, unlock their windows and doors on the journey to claim their destiny, their promise, their legacy.
I remember as a little girl, you gave me the precious gift of encouragement. When you said over and again, “Be all that God intended you to be—no matter what, come what may.” I now offer that gift back to my daughter, other family members, my students, clients, and friends.
I remember your humility and sacrifice. For many long years you and Daddy toiled and sacrificed so that my sisters and I could have a better life than the ones you’d known. I remember your and Dad’s Mississippi stories of struggle and strife, of Dad’s deep longing to go to college to better himself and improve our lot, of him working as a janitor at Ole Miss and there, by the grace of God, William Faulkner came into his life and paid for Dad to attend Alcorn A&M College, with no strings attached. I remember you working as a cook in the nursery to help make ends meet, Dad’s working at low-paying jobs even with his college degree. I remember you both standing on your rock-solid values of hard work, gratitude, faith, love, and integrity.
I also remember you teaching me that we making a living by what we choose as our work or profession, and we make a life by what we do for others.For this and so much more, I thank you.
Next Sunday is my birthday! I’m throwing myself a party—to celebrate another year here. My party is all about saying YES!
YES! After fully recuperating from surgery, I’m walking again. I include several intervals of 2-3 minute “power bursts,” to burn a few more calories and pamper my heart.
YES! I’m eating more oatmeal, because it tastes good and because it’s good for my heart. A touch of cinnamon makes it even better and helps keep my LDL cholesterol in check.
YES! I’m drinking my 8-10 glasses of water every day. When I have my occasional cup of coffee, I can hear my sister, Vera, whisper in my ear as she flashes her lovely smile—“OK, Glo, add one glass of water for every cuppa Joe.” She’s one of the most fit women on the planet, so I listen and drink up.
YES! I’m coming up on my 57th birthday. Just a few weeks before his 57th, my father passed away from cancer of colon, liver, and pancreas. So I celebrate this year as a tribute to my dad, Earnest McEwen, Jr., and to myself–for beating the odds. YES!
Say YES to taking excellent care of yourself. You’re the only one who can.
I honor my father, Earnest McEwen, Jr., this Father’s Day for the many blessings he poured into my life. A hard worker all his life, he was quick to remind others to “remember to stop and smell the roses.” As a kid, I recall those rare, precious Saturday afternoons when he’d take me fishing with him. Or when he’d take my mom, me, and my sisters for a holiday outing to Kensington Park not too far from Detroit, MI. We’d pray for sun. We’d often have a hot, muggy day, topped off by a great big thunderstorm.
Even as a young boy, somehow my dad knew what US Secretary of Education Arne Duncan knew when he affirmed that “Education… is the only sure path out of poverty and the only way to achieve a more equal and just society.” That’s as true today as it ever was.
Growing up in my house, it wasn’t a matter of if I’d attend college. It was purely a matter of which one. Ditto for my four sisters. As the first person in his family to attend college, my father wanted to ensure that I and my sisters received an excellent education, so that we wouldn’t have to endure the grinding hardship and poverty that he and my mom experienced growing up in rural Mississippi in the 1930s and ’40s.
Autumn was my dad’s favorite season. Many years ago, when he was terminally ill with several types of cancer, I walked the grounds of Bethany cemetery with him to select his casket. I asked him why he wanted to do this. He said, “I want to spare your mother from this burden.” I remember thinking to myself, what kind of what would do this for his wife? “A king of a man,” I thought. As we walked along the path, we didn’t say much else. We simply enjoyed the pleasure and comfort of each other’s presence. Many years after my father passed away, I wrote the poem “That Autumn Morning” as a tribute to him, to honor his life and his death. Here’s to you, Daddy!
That Autumn Morning
thinking of Robert Hayden
In memory of my father. I thank God for his unconquerable soul.
Look in the mirror and ask yourself: do you love the person you see staring back at you. The answer should be an emphatic Yes! Saying Yes! means accepting yourself and loving yourself simply for being who you are.
When you love yourself, the rest is easy.
- Take time for yourself—every single day. Even if it’s only half an hour a day, set aside time just for you to unwind and relax.
- Get up and move to increase your energy. Go for a walk, take an aerobics class, or turn up the volume on your favorite playlist and dance to the music. Bonus: when you increase your energy you reduce your stress.
Gratitude is about giving thanks and appreciation. At its core, gratitude is about relationship, about our deep regard for the past, present, and future… and the people who offer us the gift of loving kindness*.
As you think about those who have come before you, give thanks, for you are in the place you are today because of their sacrifices, triumphs, struggles, and achievements. As stewards and guardians, they paved the road for you so you can live the life you do and enjoy its bounty. Celebrate them and allow yourself into that place of the eternal. Then reflect on how the path you walk, which began with your ancestors, will be a legacy for yourself… and pave the way for the future generations.
Take a moment to call or jot a note to an aunt, an uncle, your grandfather, or grandmother. Express your gratitude and your love.
* Deep gratitude to my sister, Vera, who took this lovely photo and gave me permission to post it here. Thanks also to my niece and mom, the young girl and elder in the photo, which Vera aptly calls “Heaven on Earth.”
Years ago, when I lived in Detroit, one of my family’s Saturday rituals was going to the Farmer’s Market. There we’d encounter a sensual feast… bushels of sweet corn, juicy ripe tomatoes, peas, beans, melons, cukes, and greens galore–collard, mustard, kale, and turnip! And, if we were lucky, there was some kind of surprise. So when a friend shared this video, it took me back to that wonderful, old market. And…I even found a thrilling surprise. Enjoy!
“At 211 degrees, water is hot. At 212 degrees, it boils.” With these words, S.L. Parker opens his lovely little book: 212°: The Extra Degree. Parker goes on to say that “…with boiling water comes steam. And with steam, you can power a train.” What a difference that one degree can make.
The power of one.
Here are some of our sisters and brothers who understood the power of one… and the power ofPassing It On!
All of these folks were supported by a great multitude of kindred souls–who worked together…. sometimes in spite of themselves… to make that one degree of difference. Tell me, what difference are making with your power of one?
Summer is always a good to remember the importance of making time for yourself–to give yourself a special gift of time set aside just for you—even if it’s only a few minutes day. In the midst of planning much-needed vacations and hosting family and friends, it’s important to make sure you slow down… to savor all the wonderful people in your life. It’s also important to simply slow down and breathe in what nourishes you and breathe out anything that doesn’t. You owe it to yourself to breathe in love, kindness, and hope, and breathe out irritation, jealousy, fear, or whatever else you need to let go of. These special moments provide you with food for the soul.
Take a few minutes right now to stop, reflect, count your blessings, or pray for someone. You’ll do something good for yourself… and others.
My husband John and I just celebrated our 35th anniversary. Talk about blessings!
More and more, folks ask what’s the secret to a happy, long-lasting marriage? Well, it doesn’t just happen. Along with gratitude, patience, and a sense of humor, it takes commitment, love, and lots dedication and hard work.
Here are a few things that have helped me and John. Maybe they’ll help you, too.
♥ Commitment. Begin with the end in mind. In other words, when you say “I do…” remember that those 2 precious words go along with “’til death do us part.” And when the going gets rough–because it surely will–it helps to know you’re committed to each other, and to working together to get to the other side and live to tell about it.
♥ Love. It’s the only thing that multiplies when you share it, so be generous with your love–your kisses, hugs, whispers, snuggling, hand holding, and hallelujahs. Get to know each other’s love language–and use it! If just thinking about your spouse makes you flush, let him or her know. Romantic surprises are always lovely–a love note tucked under a pillow or into a pocket… even 35 long-stemmed red roses. Oh, my!!
♥ Communication. Be sure to talk about both the little and the big things. Talk about everything–your beliefs and dreams… faith, money, children, romance, family, friends, work, and recreation. If it’s important to you, then it should be important to your mate. When you fight, get over it–the sooner the better. In the grand scheme of things, life is short. What do you really care about–being right or being with Mr. or Mrs. Right?
♥ Time together. Make it a priority to be together–alone, just the two of you. If you’re raising children, set aside time each day that’s just for you. If you can arrange for someone to care for your children every now and then, do it. If yours is an empty nest, set aside special time for “date night”… play a game, sing, watch a movie, take a walk, find a book you both enjoy… read it and talk about it, take a class together. Be intentional. Invest in each other and the rewards will be good times and memories to cherish for years to come.
John, here’s to you… and to us for 35 more wonderful years–at least!
As hard as times are, there are so many people who will give of their time, energy, and ingenuity to help others. A little over a week ago, a 9-year old girl named Chloe wanted to do something to help the dozens of people who lost everything they owned when their apartment complex burned to the ground. What began as a simple outreach has turned into a drive for food, clothing, and household items to help these families get back on their feet.
Remembering a fire that devastated her family when she was just a child, one neighbor summed up Chloe’s efforts by saying, “Chloe is not just collecting household items, she’s giving hope.”
We are each other’s keeper. What can you do to be the difference that makes a difference in somebody’s life today?
In the northern hemisphere, summer has started her slow dance toward fall. Days are shorter. Here in the Pacific Northwest, our days begin draped in dense, low-hanging clouds. We awaken to the low moan of fog horns. As the fog burns away, the sun beams through. Still, the warmest part of each day lasts only a few precious hours. More and more, the breeze carries a hint of chill. Baseball season is winding down, and football season is gearing up.
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And this week, the rush is on for a new school year! School days. Filled with memories—mostly fond ones—of laughter, learning, and fun with family and friends.
Where would be without relationships? They enrich our lives, improve our well-being, and nourish our soul. Who has made your life sweeter, richer by being part of your life? Who makes you feel welcome and safe in their presence? Who listens to you? Who supports you? Who encourages you and cheers you on to your next victory—small or large? Who disagrees with you and still makes you feel valued, whole, and respected?
A true friend does all these things and so much more. True friends are allies, comrades, confidantes, companions. True friends invest in you for the long haul… through thick and through thin, when the water is high or low, whether the days are short or long. And though they may be in your life for only a season, true friends stand by you and abide with you. They dwell in your heart for all time.
As we move from the golden days of summer into the misty, muted days of fall, harvest time is in the air. Whatever we’ve planted this year is now ripe and ready to be plucked and savored.. or put aside until the chilly, dormant days of winter.
Burnished leaves of fall
What seeds have you planted this year that are ripe for harvest?
Here are a few stories about seeds sown from friends, family, and clients.
A home-school mom: “Every day I get to be with Rafe, my 8-year old son. Being a home-school mom is the best way I know to plant seeds that will bear fruit today, tomorrow, next week, next year, and for years to come. I wouldn’t trade this time with Rafe for anything. ”
A retired postal clerk: “In my work, I did a lot of walking over the years. Now that I’m retired, I also walk a lot, but things are different. Now I have time to slow down and talk to people. I have time to listen to the birds, enjoy the breeze, admire the trees… I even have time to stop and smell the roses. You can’t beat that.”
A teenager: “It’s been about 5 years since I last saw my dad or even spoke to him. When he left, he said he never wanted to see me or my mom again. But the other day, he called. At first I didn’t want to talk to him. But I’m glad I did. He told me it wasn’t my fault that things went bad between him and my mom. He told me how sorry he was for all the horrible things he’d said to us. Best of all, my dad told me how much he loved me. That meant the world to me.”
A hair dresser: “You would think in this recession that business would be down. In fact, it’s just the opposite. I’m doing really well. Next month, I’ll be expanding and doubling the size of my salon. For me, it’s all about relationship, about showing people how much you care. That caring attitude is what keeps people coming back… and they tell their friends. How cool is that?!”
Tell me, what seeds have you sown, and how are you harvesting your bounty of blessings and sharing your wealth with others?
The truly wealthy are those who give until it feels good.
Here’s a simple way to boost your energy and stay healthy. Think “HEART” and it’s even easy to remember.
H-ydrate. With a radiant smile on her face, my 10-year old niece reaches for a glass of refreshing water throughout the day. “Delicious!,” she says. Fill your favorite container and enjoy at least 8 glasses of water a day.
Victory for the soul
E-xercise. Add more pep to your step. Use the stairs instead of the elevator, walk with a buddy, ride your bike. If exercise has been on your “round tuit” list for a while, start slowly… 5-10 minutes a day. Gradually work up to 20-30 minutes 4-5 times a week.
A-wareness. What we think and what we feel changes our body’s chemistry. Lift others up and celebrate yourself, and you’ll be rewarded with life-giving energy.
R-est. Take several breaks during the day—stretch, move your shoulders, take a brisk walk. Refill your water bottle! Be sure to get enough sleep each night.
T-ransform your mind. Embrace an attitude of gratitude. It’s impossible to be thankful and negative at the same time. Each small choice you make is life-affirming. And each life-giving choice is a victory for your soul.
Pick or buy some fresh flowers for your home or apartment. Beautiful colors and fragrance is a feast for the eyes and food the soul.
Listen to your favorite music. If you want calm, choose music with a beat that’s slower than your pulse.
Go to a park. Leave your cell phone and anything else that beeps at home. Just take an open mind and an open heart. Enjoy the beauty that surrounds you. Take a mental picture of what you see… note the colors you’re drawn.
Know anybody that you’re still angry with or holding a grudge against… take a moment & say a prayer for him or her. Forgive them… so you can get over it and get on with your wonderful life.
We all know that healthy self-esteem is good for you, but do you really know what it means and what it takes? Here are six keys to having healthy self-esteem. You’ll know if you’re on track by asking yourself:
Do I live consciously and intentionally? In other words, am I aware of what I’m doing, of what’s going on in the world around me as well as happening inside me?
Do accept myself—even under trying or difficult circumstances? Am I compassionate toward myself in the same way I am towards others?
Am I responsible for my choices and actions, or do I tend to look to others for contentment and fulfillment?
Do I respect my wants and needs? Am I comfortable letting others know who I am, what I value, and what I stand for?
To I set realistic goals, take steps to achieve them, and keep track of my progress along the way?
Am I congruent with my values? In other words, do I walk my talk? When I make promises to others, can they count on me to keep my commitments?
Feeling a little edgy, tense, stressed lately? Try some time outdoors…. Taking a leisurely walk through a quiet park, forest, or beside your favorite stream or lake lowers stress. Being outdoors away from noise provides a healthy dose of natural medicine that can lower the level of the stress hormone cortisol. Being outdoors in a peaceful setting can also increase the amount of cancer-fighting proteins in your bloodstream. Bonus—the benefits last for up to a week!
Too busy for a walk outdoors? No worries—just by gazing at a natural setting, you can lower stress. You can even enjoy the stress-reducing, cancer-fighting benefits by taking a few minutes to relax, close your eyes, and recall a calm, peaceful setting.
Invite peace and tranquility into your life—your friends and loved ones will thank you for it.
Every day is a day of blessing. Today, among my many blessings, I count these and so many more:
Family and friends who open their hearts and long arms of love to me again and again, even in the midst of seemingly impossible circumstances. An aunt who recently lost her sister after her long bout with cancer, who cooks daily for her extended family and welcome neighbors into her home anytime, ministering to their many needs.
Burnished leaves of fall
A dear friend who after serving in the Peace Corps in Botswana recently returned to the US. She returned months earlier than planned so she could cradle her precious grandson to her bosom, the fragile little tyke whose life is a singular blessing from God. All praise for this miracle child and for His loving embrace and protection.
A deep bow to my husband, John, my soulmate, friend, and first listener for all my triumphs and trials. Mighty blessings and kisses for my daughter, Quinn, who called me earlier this week for a luxurious conversation. She wanted to be sure she had all the family recipes down as she prepares her very first Thanksgiving dinner. As I combed through my memory for those savory recipes that probably never will be captured in written form, I chuckled at how much I sounded like my own dear mom, “Well, honey… you just need a little pinch of this and about a handful of that… go easy on the butter….”
However you count your blessings, when all is said and done, the blessings we hold most dear are those filled with people and infused with love given and love received.
What the world needs now is love in all of its diverse expressions—empathy, compassion, mercy, forgiveness, passion, gratitude, kindness. Who will you say “I love you” to today? What word of encouragement will you whisper in their ear? Who will you feed with your smile? What a difference love makes.
Here are just a few of our sisters and brothers who have made a difference through the power of love.
Time to enjoy a great recipe. No butter, sugar, eggs, or flour. In fact, it has no calories at all… yet it’s so refreshing!! Just think “HEART,” says Vera McEwen, fitness expert and cranio-sacral therapist. Follow this recipe daily for wellness, especially important during the busy holiday season:
Hydrate – drink plenty of water, at least 8 glasses a day. Reduce dehydration, confusion, and tension by getting enough water each day.
Exercise – start today, slowly at first then work up to 20 min. 4-5/week. Hey, even I can do this!
Awareness – increase your self awareness, which also increases your sense of presence and enjoying the gift of being in present moment.
Rest – the body needs an ample supply. We can all use a few extra zzzz’s.
Transform your mind – make healthy, life-affirming choices. Remember, whatever you choose today becomes your tomorrow.
Don’t put off clearing your clutter until the New Year. Begin today with these simple strategies.
Set a timer for 30 minutes. Focus on just one room, closet, or that “everything” drawer. If you choose a room, narrow your focus to a single area in the room. Doing so will keep you focused and efficient. No cheating. When the timer chimes, you’re done. For now. Make a date with yourself to have a clearing party once a week.
Next month, invite your family to party with you—for 30 minutes. Celebrate by playing a game together.
If you’re like me and you find it hard to get rid of some things, ask yourself: Do I love it? If yes, then ask yourself: Will I use it again?
If yes, ask if you’ll use it in the next 3 months? If you still say yes, then ask: Can someone else use it?
This last question is the kicker for me. It’s THE question that will force me to put that nifty basket, cellophane-swaddled candle, or some other unused treasure in a box to give away to someone else.
Clear your clutter—today. Not only will you be glad you did, you’ll also make someone else happy. Oh, Happy (uncluttered) Holidays!
This holiday season, I give thanks for my daughter who at 24 still enjoys the simple pleasures of hanging out with me and her dad. Now in the last year of her graduate program, she didn’t think she’d be able to make it home from Boston this year for Christmas. By the grace of God, she did. And we’re delighted.
When I asked for her advice about my “Feel Good Tuesday post, she said, “Oh, you should write about family—how wonderful it is to see and spend time with family members. And the importance of appreciating and sharing our love for one another, especially older family members while they can still enjoy your presence.
I’m so grateful for the many evenings we’ve enjoyed snuggled around the fireplace, catching up on our lives, sharing stories and photos, playing games, or dreaming about the year ahead. Sometimes, we gather around the piano and sing… or we round up other instruments and play music together. I imagine other households and muse about the wonderful dreams being shared between moms and daughters, fathers and sons, brothers and sisters. The kind of dreams that connect one heart to another around the kitchen table and across the miles.
As you reflect on the holidays, I trust that the one gift you remember is the gift of family—the gift of giving and receiving love.
I trust that your 2011 is off to a wonderful beginning!
As the New Year approached, I found myself in the ER with a nasty gash on my forehead along with assorted bruises and sprains. Not exactly how I’d planned to welcome in the next 12 months. So instead of thinking about the usual resolutions for the year ahead, I simply counted my blessings: Thank you for family and friends. Thank you… that my fall wasn’t more serious. No concussion, no broken bones or teeth. Thank you for wonderful doctors and nurses who devote themselves to providing excellent care—even into the wee hours when most of us are snug in our beds.
My resolutions for this year? You can bet that I’ll watch my step! I also promised to let go of a few things and to give myself a periodic tune up to bring my life back into balance. Here are some of the questions I will ask myself today and throughout the year.
- What activities, tasks, and things no longer suit me or serve me well at this stage of my life?
- What’s out of balance, or out of tune, in my life right now?
- How is this lack of balance holding me back?
- What must I give up to rebalance my life, to resolve what’s out of balance?
- What one action will I commit to today as my first step in resolving the imbalance in my life?
To prepare for new beginnings, we must often let go of something—old habits, patterns, things, relationships, or whatever it is that we no longer need in our lives. What must you let go of this year so that something brand new can be born?
May 2011 be an extraordinary year for you. And may it be the year that you dare to take charge of your life… the year you dare to live with passion, purpose, and presence… the year you dare wear your soul on the outside. May you bask in the bountiful blessings of gratitude, love, faith, courage, vision, and integrity, and may your creativity blossom this year and beyond.
As an educator, consultant, and coach, I work with students and clients who are often overwhelmed never-ending demand to do more and more with less and less. As difficult as these times are, the people I work with share something valuable, something that money can’t buy.
They share the blessings of love, integrity, tenacity, laughter, hope, and the life-giving gift of gratitude. They are grateful for each day, thankful for their family and friends, and appreciate the little things in life, or what I call miracle moments… moments such as these:
- From one sister to another: Thank you for reminding mom that her glasses aren’t lost, but that she’s wearing them. And thank you for going back to church on Christmas eve and retrieving her handbag that she left on the pew.
- From a single mom: Thank you for offering to pump my gas. I’ve had a really hard day and I’m so tired… you must have known I had to hurry to the day care to pick up my little girl.
Miracle moments are all around us. To see and appreciate them, we just have to open the eyes of our heart.
While mending from my recent fall, I’ve had some time to think about bringing my life back into balance. Here are a couple of them:
Set priorities and follow the energy of Yes! I often remind my students and clients that “priority” means main concern. Right now, my main concern is my health. How liberating to have this kind of clarity. When I make choices, I just ask myself: will it boost my spiritual, physical, relational, and emotional health and well-being? The answer must be Yes!
Just say no. The idea of saying “no” can be tricky, so I decided to meet this challenge head-on. I made two lists—one of tasks and activities that gave me joy, satisfaction, and energy. I filled the other list with tasks and activities I no longer enjoy, tasks and people who sap my energy. When I looked at this list, I quickly realized that I could let go of many of these activities or delegate them to others. When we let go of the things that we no longer need to do or that no longer serve us, we open the door for activities that are meaningful and that bring us joy.
What will you do today to bring more joy into your life?
Still on the mend from my recent fall… so I’ve had even more time to think about bringing my life back into balance. Here’s one:
Work is work, not your life. With so many time-saving resources at our fingertips, it’s tempting to want to stay virtually connected simply because we can. To resist being seduced by technology, be intentional about creating a boundary between work and your precious leisure and personal time.
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When you’re with your family and friends, connect with them not with your laptop or e-book reader. When you go for a walk, leave your cell phone in your office or at home. If you must have it with you, then turn your phone off. And be sure to.. smile with a child, toss some leaves in the air, and smell the roses.
In honor of African-American History Month, I’m combining some Feel Good tips that I learned from one of my favorite teachers, Dr. Eva Jessye, with a tribute to her.
Internationally renowned performer, choral director, educator, author, and ethnomusicologist, Eva Jessye’s accomplishments were many, and many of her accomplishments were historic.
Dr. Eva Jessye
In her long and prolific life, her “firsts” included numerous groundbreaking collaborations with Harlem Renaissance artists, concert hall musicians, and Broadway great George Gershwin. Dr. Jessye was also a leading activist in the Civil Rights Movement. Later in her career she was a professor at the University of Michigan, which is where I met and fell in love with her. In the time that I knew her, Dr. Jessye taught me a great deal. I’m blessed to share a few of those cherished lessons with you.
• Find that spark within you that you were born to do. Because what you were born to do, you never have to stop and wonder should I, would I, could I? You just say I will do it. I WILL do it. I will DO it. I will do IT! For Eva, music came naturally. She was born to make music. She often said that for her music was “not second nature, but first nature.”
• Don’t take no for answer. When people tell you “no,” that’s just another way of saying that your real work has just begun.
• You are just as important, just as special as anyone else. A magnificent storyteller, Eva loved to share stories about her life. She told us about her work with George Gershwin on the original production of Porgy and Bess. Dr. Jessye said George had studied great deal and knew a great deal about music. “But,” she she’d say, “I’ve been black longer than he has.” Then she’d break out laughing.
• If there is no wind, make some of your own. In other words, if you want something to change, don’t wait for somebody else to do it.
• Whatever the task, always do your best. We owe the world the best that we can offer.
These lessons are as rich and relevant today as they were so many years ago. Thank you, Dr. Jessye, for your magnificence, your brilliance, and your great gifts of heart and soul.
A few years ago I attended a leadership conference in the desert of Southern California. Archbishop Desmond Tutu was one of the speakers. He gave us such simple yet profound advice: “God is waiting on us. He needs our help.” What is God waiting on you to step up for? Who can you call today to offer a word of encouragement? Who can you pray for today? Are you taking good care of yourself, so that you can be at your best for others? Did you smile at someone today?
Join me in celebrating Women’s Month: Take a moment to enjoy Maya Angelou’s words and lovely image, taken last month when President Obama presented her with the Presidential Medal of Freedom.
As we celebrate women, here are 4 things we can do for ourselves and others—today and every day.
Show up.This is the first and most essential aspect of taking charge of your life… and influencing the lives of others. Be there. Presence makes a difference. And full presence—spiritual, emotional, physical, and mental—makes all the difference.
Speak up. As women, most of know the pain of being seen but not heard. As an African-American woman, sometimes the pain is double. But I don’t let that get me down. If I did, some days I’d wouldn’t get up! When women speak, we add our uniqueness and offer diversity that would otherwise be missing and missed.
Stand up. Find someone or something—a place, a cause, an idea—that you care about so passionately and so deeply that you will take a stand for it… and you can and will talk about it with anyone, anywhere, without apologies or regrets.
Lift up. We were made to love and honor one another. How will you celebrate someone and lift them up today and every day?
Welcome Spring! Sensual abundance. I feel very blessed to be coming back to my senses, especially since my fall just a few months ago.
So I’m counting my blessings. There are so many of them—greening trees, bulbs pushing forth from warming soil… more sun, wind and, rain… birdsong, children playing in the park. And less time in physical therapy. Talk about blessings!
I’ve been watching my step… and letting go of some things that no longer serve me well at this stage of my life. To help me prepare for new beginnings, I committed to one action each day, asking God, “How can you use me today?” Each day, something new is being birthed.
May this Spring bring forth new beginnings for you and the people and places you love. And may your be blessed with great wealth–of gratitude, love, faith, compassion, forgiveness, and creativity.
It’s that time of year again—spring, when the world seems brand new again. And the greening trees remind us that it’s time to spruce things up a bit. Here are a few things you can do today.
Pick just one thing to focus on—the “junk” drawer in your kitchen, a closet, or even a corner of a room.
Set a timer for 30 minutes. Doing so will keep you focused and efficient. OK, go!
Put anything you don’t need or want in a bag or box to recycle or give away.
If it’s difficult for you to let go of some things, ask yourself: Does someone else need this more than I do? The answer is usually yes, so go ahead and make someone else’s day!
When the timer chimes, you’re done.
Now, make a date with yourself for a 30-minute fling next week.
Celebrate yourself: take a walk, ride your bike, sip a cup of your favorite tea, pick some spring flowers, call a friend.
In just a few weeks, you’ll be amazed at how organized things are and how great you feel.
Our culture wants us to believe that our physical appearance is the only barometer of health. The truth is that authentic health is about living our lives from the inside out. This means recognizing the importance of our spiritual, mental, and emotional health, all of which impact our physical health.
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When we buy into a limited vision of health, we compromise ourselves… we settle for a life that is too small for us… and, sometimes, we even jeopardize our long-term health and wellness for short-term gains.
Every day we are billboards for our daughters and sons, not to mention other women. As nurturers and care givers, we are one of the most powerful forces on the planet. Who we are and what we do affects our loved ones here and now, and our choices create a ripple effect that will impact our children, our children’s children, and generations beyond. So, ask yourself: Will I be a billboard for compromise and betrayal, or will I be a billboard for faithfulness… and for creating a legacy of true health and wellness for myself and for those I love?
Developing a sense of hopefulness helps us maintain a positive focus on the future.
Hopefulness has many facets. Three of the most important are: a sense of purpose, a devotion to service, and a sense of faith.
Today’s focus: Purpose.
Purpose: a positive focus on what’s important. Having a sense of purpose is essential. Like a compass or the North Star, purpose provides direction and helps keep us on course—in our relationships, at work, and beyond.
When I was growing up, I remember my mom saying, “Any road will get you there if you don’t know where you’re going.” What are your goals for today, tomorrow, and next week? What kind of relationships do you desire with your friends, your children, your spouse? What do you want to finish or begin by the end of this year?
When the going gets rough, people who are purpose-focused are more successful in navigating life’s adversities and storms.
Because they naturally concentrate on the future, individuals who are purpose-focused have something meaningful to look forward each day. What are you excited about and looking forward to today?
Developing a sense of hopefulness helps us maintain a positive focus on the future.
Hopefulness has many facets. Three of the most important are: a sense of purpose, a devotion to service, and a sense of faith.
Today’s focus: Service.
Service: a positive focus on others. Making a positive difference in another person’s life offers a double blessing. When you give your time, love, and energy to others, they receive a gift… and so do you. Your gift is the pleasure and sheer joy that comes from being of service to someone else.
I’m delighted that our young people are growing up to be givers, to understand what it means and what it takes to serve others—their family members, neighbors, as well as our sisters and brothers around the world.
Growing up, my mom and dad taught me and my sisters that wealth had nothing to do with possessions. True wealth meant valuing yourself and others. True wealth was understanding that we’re all part of the same blessed community and that our number one concern is caring for and helping one another. Serving takes the focus off ourselves and turn it others—towards helping, supporting, and nurturing someone else’s hopes and dreams.
Service is giving to others without expectation of reward. You just do it because it’s the right thing to do. You do it because it feels good. A few years ago, I was blessed to plant a few trees at a school in Kenya. I planted one in honor Maurice, a young student. Just the other day, he sent me an e-mail to let me know that “my” tree is growing well. Made my day!
When you focus on others, you naturally concentrate on the future. How are you serving someone else today? How are you passing on your values to others?
Developing a sense of hopefulness helps us to maintain a positive focus on the future.
Hopefulness has many facets. The three most important are these: a sense of purpose, a devotion to service, and a sense of faith.
Today’s focus: faith.
Faith means a positive focus on a belief, trust, and power outside of yourself.
Our culture tells us that: Seeing is believing. The truth is: Believing is seeing.
Faith offers us the ability and power to be future focused—the ability to trust and keep our eyes on the prize… even when others can’t “see” what we see. Dr. King reminds us that “faith is taking the first step even when you can’t see the whole staircase.” Indeed, faith is about building the bridge, even as we walk across it.
What is the rhythm of faith in your life? What must you let go of, so that you can be faithful to what is calling you–now?
The power of one encounter can change your life. You never know when that moment will happen.
It’s not your business to know. Your business is to simply live your life with intention, gratitude, and an attitude of service… to be a blessing to others along the way. In this video I share one woman’s remarkable story, an encounter that changed not just one life but many lives.
Practice peace by breathing in peace. As you breathe in, simply say “Peace.” As you breathe out, say it again, “Peace.” Use your own words to usher in peace or use these: “Peace within me”… “Peace above me”… “Peace all around me”… “I am peace”… “I give you peace”… “Peace, peace, peace”… “Peace, laughter, love”…
Practice peace by listening to soothing, uplifting music.
Practice beat by listening to the beat of your own heart.
Practice peace by lying on the ground and gazing at the sky. Notice the clouds as they change shape. Years ago, I was lying on hillside in Scotland with the young man who would become my husband. We gazed at the sky for hours, staring at the clouds as they morphed into faces, butterflies, trees, animals. Even then, we marveled at the blessed companionship of peace and love.
Practice peace by lighting a candle or incense: as you do, say a prayer for peace for your loved ones, for your neighbors, for our leaders, for our forests, for the thousands of service men and women, for their family members, for orphans, for our rivers, streams, and oceans, for those who are without food, shelter, and hope, for those who are called to serve.
Almost 100 years ago, artist, poet, and author Khalil Gibran reminded us that “work is love made visible.” He encouraged us to remember what it means and what it is to work with love:
It is to weave the cloth with threads drawn from your heart, even as if your beloved were to wear that cloth.
It is to build a house with affection, even as if your beloved were to dwell in that house.
It is to sow seeds with tenderness and reap the harvest with joy, even as if your beloved were to eat the fruit.
It is to charge all things you fashion with a breath of your own spirit, and to know that all the blessed dead are standing about you and watching.
Others are watching as well.
When you work with passion—fueled by the great fire within, you ignite the flame of inspiration in others. This is what it means to wear your soul on the outside, and it is one of the many ways you can make a difference in someone else’s life.
How are you infusing your work with love? How are you providing fuel for someone else’s fire?
One of the ways I keep my eyes on the future is by sharing stories and poetry, time-honored ways to impart wisdom and to teach what might otherwise take months or years.
Gloria Burgess Photo: Angel's Trumpet
Poet Theodore Roethke wisely reminds us that we all “learn by going where [we] have to go.” In this way, my stories and poems have helped me learn. As well, they have helped me grow by compelling me to work through the past–my struggles, joy, anger, triumphs, discouragement, pain… and glorious radiance.
When I share my stories and poems, I’m delighted to learn that they sometimes offer a much-needed bridge… a lifeline of sorts for others.
We never know who might need the light or warmth from our candle. We never know when a word or image we’ve chosen will awaken in someone something that allows him or her to claim and share their story.
It’s not our business to know.
Our business is to share our blessings, to share our beauty… the wonderful wealth of who we are. Our business is to wear our souls on the outside.
When we share our stories, we make ourselves known. We shine a light, making it OK for others to do the same. So many folks need the safety and comfort of that OK.
That’s how we heal the world. That’s how we create heaven right here on earth: a small step, a worthy action, a shared story, an OK zone.
John and I just celebrated another anniversary. Our 36th! Where has the time gone?!
Well, we devoted time to growing together in God… nurturing our diverse ministries, including raising our wonderful daughter, creating careers in business, teaching, consulting, and coaching… encouraging others… enjoying and creating music… and attending grad school not once but many times. )
Mango Gerbera Daisy.Gloria Burgess
What’s the secret to a vibrant, joyous marriage? Here are a few things that have helped me. Maybe they’ll help you, too.
♥ Commitment. Begin with the end in mind. Even before you say “I do,” create a shared vision for your life together. And when you say “I do,” know that you are making a vow, a sacred commitment for the long-term. Remember that those 2 precious words—“I do”—are intimately connected with “’til death do us part.” When you hit the inevitable snag or a bump in the road, it helps to know you’re committed to each other, to God, and to working together to move through the rough times… and live to tell about it!
♥ Love. The language of love includes gratitude, patience, courage, and forgiveness, along with a good sense of humor. Love is the only thing that multiplies when you share it, so be sure to love generously—with your smiles, kisses, hugs, whispers, laughter, snuggling, hand holding, stories, and hallelujahs. Discover your mate’s love language—and use it! If just thinking about your spouse makes you flush, don’t keep it to yourself. Tell him. I love romantic surprises—a love note under my pillow or, when I’m on the road, tucked into my luggage… a shared sunrise or sunset… hearing John play the piano while I’m writing or cooking… or even better—having him cook!
♥ Communication. Be sure to talk about everything—the big things and the little things. Share your beliefs and dreams… about faith, money, children, romance, family, friends, work, and recreation. If it’s important to you, then it should be important to your mate. Remember that in the grand aria of life, time is precious and life is short. Don’t waste precious time pouting, sulking, or dishing out the silent treatment. When you fight, get over it—the sooner the better. Do you really care about being right or being with Mr. or Mrs. Right?
♥ Time together and time alone is essential. Be intentional. If you’re raising children, set aside time each day that’s just for the two of you. If you can arrange for a relative or friend to care for your children every now and then, do it. If your nest is empty, set aside a special time for a date night: take a walk, play a game, sing, watch a movie, learn how to say “I love you” in as many languages as possible. The important thing is to have fun. Invest in each other and the rewards will be a joyous relationship, good times, and memories to cherish for years to come.
John, here’s to you… Happy 36th! To many, many more.
Each of us has been summoned to become a person unique in all the world. Just as every snowflake and flower is unique, so are you.
Bird of Paradise.Gloria Burgess
No one else is like you and no one else can contribute to the world what you were specifically designed to contribute.
Dancing visionary and pioneer Martha Graham likens dancing to the art of living. Both require years of practice and development. In her autobiography Blood Memory, Graham points out that we “learn to dance by practicing dancing” and we “learn to live by practicing living.”
For dancing and for living, that practice requires thousands of repetitions. Day in and day out. To learn and master walking, talking, and feeding yourself—complex skills that we take for granted—requires several years of practice.
In your life’s journey—or your life’s performance—some of the most important questions that you ask and grapple with may be questions about your legacy.
Questions to ask include: How do I want to be known… and remembered? What is the rhythm, or presence, of legacy in my life? What choices do I make each day to live my legacy here and now? What or who do I believe in so deeply and passionately that I will make enormous sacrifices for it?
Host these questions as you would a special guest in your home. Pay attention, but avoid hovering over them. In time, the questions will take up residence in your heart, and they will reveal their secrets to you. They will become your teacher and guide as you keep your eyes on the great prize of your life.
This post is by Vera McEwen. Thanks for sharing your heart, Sis.
Legacy Living… and Dare to Wear Your Soul on the Outside, these books in addition to the your wonderful workshops guide and inspire me.
Leaving my job of nearly 20 years to home school and open a CranioSacral Therapy (CST) practice was a huge leap of faith. We are heading into our sixth amazing year and I am thrilled! Thank you for the spur ).
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We have our times of stress and we’ve found that spending time in nature removes all stress.
Not to long ago we had a very stressful week! We’d finally settled into our new home after the third move in less than a year; the practice…very busy; my daughter Adrianna however, was feeling a bit left out.
I did not know it at the time, but a mini-break to the country was just what we needed. As we began to leave the city, I rolled the windows down, the fresh smell of hay, and greenness filled the car. As we left the car to walk toward the horses, peace surrounded us guiding us toward two lovely horses. Mmm… it was so nice to feel the warmth of their skin next to mine, and they took all tension out of my hands, arms, shoulders, neck, head, and spine. I was engulfed in a sea of horse hair, it tickled my nose, and made me smile. We tacked up and rode.
Adrianna, was initially at odds with her lovely black and white paint horse. Then as the tension and stress of the week passed, she became one with her horse. It is amazing to watch someone transform from rider to whisperer. She was amazing. Many thanks to Michele Deboer, she offers lessons and de-stress days for only $20 per person. She creates a safe environment; it is slow, peaceful, gentle, relaxing, and most of all healthy for horse and rider. I recommend her place to all who need a gentle break (kids, family, friends, etc).
God has placed us in the care of nature for a reason, that WE may be transformed by it. Nature, easily removes the stress of your week by allowing you to remember who you are and “whose you are!” Get out in nature, walk on the soil and leave the pavement behind; let sand surround your toes; tilt your head back, feel the fresh air against your face; and…breath…breath in…fill your lungs with…light.
That night, Adrianna peacefully lay in my arms. We said the Lords prayer in Latin… together… I stroked her lovely face, long hair and I felt, God’s peace surround me.
We are here to love one another. Hug your child, spouse, friend… and let him or her be the first to let go. Tell a friend thank you for kick starting your day with a jog. Hold hands with your loved ones and feel the warmth of their skin. Let others see you do these things so that they will know whose you are!
Give the people you love roses while they’re with you.
Gloria on Woman's Day in Gele
Though my dad crossed over many years ago, his wise words and generous spirit still inspire me to celebrate and lift up others.
There’s no better time than now to give someone you love a wonderful bouquet of roses… whether it’s a kind word, a smile, a song, a poem, a prayer, or placing your hand gently in theirs. With so many things competing for our attention and time, it’s tempting to say, “Oh, I’ll get to “that” some other time.” Don’t wait. You just might be the difference that makes all the difference to someone else today.
Have you ever taken a step that leads you on a totally unexpected, but life-nourishing journey? Recently I took that step: a trip to Ghana as guest teacher with a group of young university students from the U.S.
Ghanain Girl in Kente Cloth
Our theme was race and identity. We posed a few questions: Who am I? Whose am I? What do I stand for? What grounds me? As we pondered the questions, doors unexpectedly opened not only for the students, but also for me. I found in myself a hunger that was deeper than expected, further hidden than I remembered. My hunger was for belonging, for community, for soul-satisfying nourishment.
In Ghana, I was profoundly reminded of how easy it is to slip into the script of a culture that focuses almost exclusively on the individual, a culture that has lost sight of the value of the collective, a culture where we distract ourselves with daily minutia that leaves us exhausted and depleted. When we buy into this script, it is easy to lose our deep regard for and connection to one another.. We lose our way and we can no longer flourish.
While in Ghana, together, we were reminded of the importance of consciousness, of finding our intentional community where we’re loved and honored simply because we’re human beings. It is here where we have a shared sense of community and a shared sense of values, history, and possibility for the future. We share a deep regard for creativity and the innate creative capacity of others, and we have a deep appreciation for all things cultural, social, and spiritual, for all that nourishes the collective. For when the collective is nourished, it flourishes, and the individuals within it also flourish.
As for the polarity that we create between the individual and the community… how will we work to remove this schism? We must attend to the human community – our relationships with family, friends, and even strangers. We must choose that which is life affirming and life giving. We did it in Ghana. I know we can do it at home.
In a recent post, I mused about the vibrancy of community in Ghana… & the dearth of community here at home. Of course, the best kind of community is making the best of it no matter what the circumstance.
To Flourish: Gloria Burgess
At the moment, my husband & I are blessed to be in community with my father-in-law, caring for & ministering to him after undergoing 5-way bypass surgery. Our community also includes other family members, wonderful care givers, rehab specialists, kind neighbors, & the many, many friendships he has sustained through the years.
At 88-years young, he’s doing remarkably well. Hallelujah! Though he still has many months to a full recovery, my father-in-law’s good cheer, generosity of spirit, & positive outlook is wonderful reminder of what it means to flourish.
Sanctuaryis very special time-out-of-time, a time-honored way to practice self-care for your own healing, renewal, and rejuvenation. It is a time set aside with the intention to take special care of ourselves, so that we can better care for others and our environment. In this sense, Sanctuary is about both “me” and“we” and how deeply connected we are.
Candles.Sanctuary.Gloria Burgess
Here are a few simple ways to time renew your spirit and feed your soul:
- As we lean into autumn, the days grow shorter and we have fewer hours of daylight. During this time nature rejoices and prepares for a season of rest. Following nature’s example, take time to pause and express gratitude for your many blessings—say thank you for family, friends, bread on your table… maybe even a few extra bucks to buy a loaf of bread for someone else.
- Light a candle to remind yourself of the many miracles in your life… and to offer light and prayer for those who live in darkness—the friendless, those without shelter or ample food… those who sleep with fear each night, without hope… those who must walk miles each day in search of sanitary drinking water.
- Take 10: 10 minutes today to select 10 gently used books to give away to someone who will benefit from them—a sister, brother, niece, or nephew; young people in your neighborhood; our service men and women who proudly serve our country; those in faraway places with few or no libraries close by.
- Get outside and rejoice in nature. Be intentional. Focus on something or someone you don’t normally notice—clouds, colors, children at play, the texture of leaves beneath your feet, teenagers walking home from school, squirrels, nests, the sound of wind in the trees, your own heartbeat. As you dwell in nature, remember that we’re part of it. Care for all of nature as if it belonged to you, because it does.
Enjoy the blessings of this harvest season and the blessings Sanctuary—peace, love, abundance, and joy.
) Your smile might be just the sip of water someone is thirsting for.
Years ago, one teacher dramatically changed my life—because of four simple words offered at the right time in the right way.
We all know that saying thank you is more than good manners… expressing thanks is a way of being, a lifestyle. Does that mean no more random acts of kindness? Well, yes… if your acts are really random.
